We all know that stereotypes in the gay community is rampant and pervasive. A 19-year-old masculine bottom says he has problems keeping men’s attention as a black “extremely masc” bottom. He believes that it due to the face that he doesn’t conform to perceptions of what bottoms should look and act like.
“I’m the big black muscle guy that looks like a top,” he writes on Reddit. “I’m 19, but I’m beefy as hell, so most people think I’m in my late 20s. I’m also a complete submissive bitch, but most guys don’t expect that out of me. I’m not opposed to topping, but I only like to top guys that I know will be around for a while (like a FWB or a romantic interest). I’ve been told I’m handsome and all of that, but all guys want is the lightweight twink they can throw around. All of my hookups have called me a big dude in a good way, but it seems like it isn’t the dream. Plus, I’m black so everybody thinks I’m a top as well.”
This author would be glad that he is the dream for some men. “How rare of a species is this?” one wrote in a DataLounge forum thread about masc bottoms. “I think I’ve finally found one, and, damn, am I in heaven.”
“Masculine bottom porn suggestions most welcome,” commented another user.
On another DataLounge thread, someone asked if masculine guys bottoming is “hot or not.” Responses to that post included “very hot” and “the best.”
That addresses the perception that masculine men can’t be desired as bottoms, but what about the bias against black men as bottoms? Unfortunately, the Redditor is far from alone, and the fetishization of certain races is yet again to blame. Take this Thought Catalog essay titled “Dear White Gays: Not All Black Guys Are Tops.”
“I want you to know that when you approach me at the bar or online and you assume I’m a top, or that I’m hung, or that I’m hung and a top, I feel dehumanized,” the author writes. “It feels like you’re reducing me to a thing that can perform a service for you, not like a mutual bond, the way sex should be.
He concludes: “When you’re a black gay guy, bottoming is a political stance. It’s a small way of saying, I don’t want to play the game of upholding dehumanizing stereotypes and images. I don’t want to confirm media and cultural stereotypes about black ‘virile’ masculinity.”
Moral of the story: We should all just appreciate humanity in its all many forms, and, more specifically, men who have sex with men in all their many roles.
Rapper Ja Rule is being accused of transphobia after posting a photoshopped image of 50 Cent wearing make-up and a wig.
The image was posted on social media after 50 Cent bought 200 seats to Ja Rules concert, the goal was to make the venue look empty.
The two have been in a nearly 20-year feud.
He wrote in the caption: “What a show, 👏I mean just f***ing great. Do it again😆my kid went to the restroom. LOL #bellator #lecheminduroi.”
Ja Rule responded by posting three photos of 50 Cent either photoshopped as a woman or portrayed in a way that negatively suggested he had sex with trans women.
The rapper has since deleted two of the photos on Instagram, following backlash, but the image on Twitter is still online.
Ja Rule posted alongside the photoshopped image on Twitter: “This beef is a JOKE to everyone except this lil ape looking b***h… she mad mad!!! 😡😂🤣😭”
Social media users were quick to criticise Ja Rule over the images.
“So Ja Rule got back at 50 by ….. making jokes about the trans community,” one person wrote on Twitter
April 8, 1947, Dr. Alfred Kinsey founded the Kinsey Institute. Giving researchers the freedom to study sex, improving relationships all over the world. In the process, he began to transform our understanding of sex and sexual behavior.
Kinsey was raised in a highly religious home, passionate about the outdoors and the natural world. While in college he would study botany and zoology (while his parents wanted him to become an engineer). He would lay down the foundation for the emerging study of plants and animals in the single field of biology, thus giving scientist the ability to promote evolution.
There is no doubt that it was the Kinsey Institute that changed the perception of sex on a global platform. The institute was originally named the Institute for Sex Research, founded at the Indiana University using grants from the Rockefeller Foundation.
The landmark document, Sexual Behavior in the Human Male would be published just one year later. Researchers found that 37% of men and 13% of women had same-sex-experiences that brought them to orgasm. At the same time, they published statistics (still-cited) that 10% of men are exclusively homosexual. It would be at this point the "Kinsey Scale" was established, a six-point method to indicate gendering of a person's attraction.
The work was not without controversy or questionable methods, Kinsey encouraged sex between colleagues and he had several relationships (sexual) with work colleagues as well. One example was that he would film fellow researchers having sex. Some of the data he collected is considered inaccurate, for example on single pedophile was extrapolated to represent multiple people. Kinsey has been accused of disproportionately focusing on queer men and prisoners, without fully understanding the culture that represented each one. At one point Kinsey began to import erotic material from other countries, thus gaining the attention of the U.S. Government, and the U.S. Customs would have to sue to release pornographic material.
Kinsey passed away in 1956 and Dr. Paul Gebhard took over the institute, and successfully fought off government restrictions over the word that the institute conducted. Dr. June Reinisch took over the helm and at this time began to publish newspaper columns that discussed topics in sexual research.
Today the institute has continued to move forward the discussion about sex. There are now online resources to help people understand their bodies and desires. How far has the Kinsey Institute come? Well, there is now a sexual health clinic and exhibits erotic art shows which allow research into the humanities.
For 71 years the Kinsey Institute has changed our perception regarding sex and sexual behavior. While there have been some questionable research and conclusions, there is no doubt the Institute has allowed human around the world to have an open discussion. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Two former employees of Outpost Pines have alleged sexual harassment against it's manager Mario Priola. In an interview with the New York Post, Rapuano-Novella one of the complainants states that Priola was "relentless" in his sexual overtures, which eventually drove him to quit his job.
Even before he started his job, Rapuano-Novella received inappropriate text and was asked to send explicit photo. In the suit it is alleged that Priola would asked him to sleep over and "grope his penis". It appears that when brought to the attention of HR, they response was that "there was nothing they could do".
My opinion regarding this matter is simple. No one should have to endure any form of sexual harassment. There is no excuse for this behavior. Some of the comments on Queerly were quite interesting.
What are your thoughts?
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It appears for many bisexuals in the LGBT community they feel left out or excluded. Samantha Allen of the Daily Beast wrote an insightful article about being bisexual in the LGBT community. You don't think that this would be a serious issue, however, it appears to be more common than we think. There are those in the community that show their disdain for anything different, outside of the norm.
The article "Are bisexuals shut out of the Club?" It another look at how certain people who are a part of the community are looked down upon, or just not accepted.
Have you experienced being shut out by others in the LGBT community? Tell us your story!