Age is just a number… or is it?
A new survey conducted by Gay Star News that found that a whole lot of people are lying about their age on dating apps. Over 3,000 people participated in the survey, which was conducted earlier this month. One if four respondents admitted they had lied about their age at least once while chatting with a potential new hookup.
Among those people who say they’ve been dishonest on their quests to get laid:
The answer is pretty simple: Agism.
When asked about agism, 60% of respondents said their experience of dating was “totally” ageist, compared to 16% who said the scene was a “little” ageist, and 6% who said it was “maybe” ageist.
Many respondents also expressed fear about getting older. 31% said they were terrified about losing their looks, while 42% said they worried about losing their partner or loved ones.
Let’s be honest about this. It is no secret that some (most) gay men will lie about their age. We live in an age, body-obsessed culture. So, when you turn a certain age you are no longer considered good looking or “hot”.
Well, who would have guessed, but according to a new report from the RAND Corp. Marines have more sex than any other branch in the United States military. The survey was completed in 2015 for the Health Related Behaviors Survey, included about 17,000 participants and covered all branches of the military.
It was found that Marines are more than likely to “engage in riskier sexual behavior” by having “more than one sex partner of the course of one year.” You could just look at it this way Marines are more sex-positive than soldiers, sailors, and airmen.
Dr. Sarah Meadows who lead the study cautioned people to not cast judgment over the findings. She stated: “We’re not trying to blame anyone for this, but the Marine Corps does tend to stand out,” she says. “Each of the services has their own culture. “ She added, “Marines tend to be young men. Compared to young men on college campuses, it’s pretty similar.”
The study also revealed that Marines are significantly more likely to smoke cigarettes, cigars and e-cigarettes and binge drink.
As we say in the south, bless his heart!
It appears that some Christian conservatives are appalled at Fox News and its recent direction. Apparently because LGBTQ acceptance has crept into the last bastion of good, Christian values – right-wing propaganda.
Doug Mainwaring who writes for Life Site is now taking the network to task for supposedly endorsing sodomy and losing sight of our Lord and Savior. As an example he used Guy Benson’s Fox colleague’s reactions when Benson announced plans to marry his longtime boyfriend. Well, Jesus mush have rolled over in his grave when he received well wishes.
This is what Doug had to say:
In [congratulating Benson on his engagement], they reveal they are not true conservatives, and that the Catholics among them are not fully dedicated to Catholic teaching. They have a soft spot for romantic sodomy. He goes on to list all the out Fox News personalities, making sure to use condescending quotations when he talks about their “marriages.”
Later he manages to get a decent burn in at D.C. gays, though it’s really only funny out of context, not the way he meant it — that because Fox films in NYC and D.C., they clearly have been infiltrated by pro-gay factions.
“Gays and lesbians are nothing special in D.C. In fact, they are exceedingly ordinary,” he writes, tongue nowhere near his cheek.
Then he argues that “Fox…publicly favor[s] sodomy for gays over and above chastity.”
Boy, if Fox News is becoming too left-leaning for you, it’s time for a long, hard look in the mirror.
A study conducted by the University of Michigan and published in the American Journal of Men’s Health in July looked at 160 gay men and their experiences in relationships in three cities – Atlanta, Boston, and Chicago. The study focused on domestic abuse in gay relationships compared to heterosexual couples. The study found key factors remained the same in intimate partner violence, such as drug abuse and financial insecurity, internalized homophobia in gay and bisexual men and was a major factor in male-mail domestic abuse.
“Findings revealed that IPV was more common among partners who had experienced homophobic violence and who had traditionally hegemonic views of masculinity that they had difficulty negotiating, referred to as ‘struggling to be the alpha,'” the research indicated.
The study interviewed both members of the couple in separate settings, which allowed both to be open and express the degree to which they are subject to, and perpetrated, abuse in the relationship. Researchers separated the study into five sections: “physical and sexual,” including hitting partner and rape, “emotional,” such as criticizing choices and behavior, “controlling,” as in preventing seeing family or friends, “monitoring,” reading emails and text messages, and “HIV-related” lying about HIV status and intentional transmission of HIV. The couples were recruited to be “serodiscordant,” meaning that one partner is infected by HIV and the other one is not.
45.6% of couples reported some form of abuse with their partners. 33.6% reported emotional violence, one in five reported monitoring violence, 9.7% experienced physical violence and 6.8% reported controlling behavior.
Rob Stephenson the lead author and a professor of nursing and director of the Center of Sexuality and Health Disparity hopes the studies finding can help facilitate changes in doctors and how they perceive domestic abuse.
The lead author of the study, University of Michigan professor of nursing and director of the Center for Sexuality and Health Disparity Rob Stephenson, hopes that the findings will change doctors’ perception of domestic abuse. “If you just looked at physical and sexual violence in male couples, it’s about 25 to 30 percent, roughly the same as women.”
The research sampling is limited, it is consistent with previous studies on domestic violence between same-sex couples. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in 2013 found that the rates of abuse in same-sex relationships were similar to those in heterosexual couples. In a study conducted by the Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine in Chicago, just one year later found higher rates of domestic violence in same-sex couples compared to opposite-sex ones.
“There are external stressors, like discrimination and violence against gays, and there are internal stressors, such as internalized negative attitudes about homosexuality,” Richard Carroll, a psychologist and co-author of the Northwestern research.
Photo: Blake Mitchell Instagram
Apparently when you’re an adult film star it pretty hard to date. According to Blake Mitchell of Helix Studios explained in a video why it feels lonely. He says that for any boyfriends it can be hard in public when people come up and say some inappropriate things: “People are gonna come up to me if we’re out together at a club possibly and make a compliment that if they made it to anybody else society would find it unacceptable,” he says.
He also admits that the travel and filing is something else that can be hard to handle, “to me, that’s my job…but I recognize from experience…what it feels like is being in a one-way open relationship and of course that’s not fair…it becomes a very difficult thing….” He also added that “There are people that think they can deal with it and then the months go by.”
Furthermore, he goes on to say: “I’m missing a piece of life that I could be having right now…and that’s a strangely painful thing to deal with to realize that I’ve picked this job over my personal life…it makes me sad sometimes but mostly it just contributes to that loneliness…the odds are stacked against me to find somebody who’s going to deal with my job, actually accept it, much less support and encourage me…”
Would you ever date an adult film star?
It appears that straight men watch gay porn at least a quarter of the time; at least to a new study. Adult film site YouPorn conducted a self-identified survey asking people how often they view same-sex porn. They discovered that 24 percent of straight men have had sex with other men and 36 percent of straight women.
The only question would be how honest the individuals are about their sexuality and sexual activity.
Returning to Lifetime for a third season UnREAL is a behind the scene drama of Everlasting; basically, a Bachelor-esque reality show run by sociopaths. Jeffrey's character is basically is the show's queer black moral arbiter.
He came out to his agent when he was 21 and started auditioning for parts “I knew 10 years ago that I primarily wanted to play queer characters,” he says. “The few times I played straight it was just so obvious how uncomfortable I was making the producers.”
Jeffery stated that it's important to have diversity when dealing with a show-within-a-show and his character “He feels a responsibility—that if he wasn’t there, having contestants’ backs, particularly female contestants of color, things would be worse. I don’t think he’d be able to walk away knowing they’d be systematically destroyed.”
“I’d be watching TV with my white friends and they’d be able to say, ‘Oh, that’s me, I’m just like her, I’m just like him,’ ” says Bowyer-Chapman, who originally trained to be a gymnast and worked for years as an international model. “I never saw myself in mainstream representations.”
He knows that landing a part as a gay character on an Emmy-nominated series is a major coup and a positive direction for queer black representation on TV. However, he admits that he gets calls from agents who would like him to be "less gay", all in an attempt to book straight roles.
But he prefers to play gay characters he stated that “even if I never played a gay character again, I’d find another platform to use my voice.” and “There were so many queer black bodies in the industry that didn’t feel safe coming out and being themselves for fear of physical safety or abandonment,” Bowyer-Chapman says. “They were living in a state of self-protection. That hasn’t been studied enough, but it’s time we started documenting it. And living openly.”
Something to think about: it appears that more people cheat in their relationship than we thought. According to a new survey, statistic found that 52% of gay men in monogamous relationships have cheated on their partners (boyfriends), and 45% confess that their partners never found out.
The study was conducted with nearly 1000 gay and/or bisexuals and conducted by FS magazine.
52% of the cheaters, 17% they had contracted an STI while fooling around, and 61% never told their partners, OUCH! The number of gay men who have been cheated on is even higher, 58% say a partner had been unfaithful.
Of the 52% of cheaters, 17% said they had picked up an STI while sneaking around–and 61% say they never told their partners about it.
These high numbers aren’t just limited to monogamous relationships. 40% in open relationships responded that their partners had violated or broken the rules set by the couple.
“17% of the gay men who admitted to cheating on their partner got an STI or HIV,” he says. “We recommend that all sexually active gay men, whether in a relationship or not, get tested for HIV and STI at least twice a year.” According to Ian Howley, Chief Executive of the Health Equality and Rights Organization.
So, if we’re going, to be honest, we must acknowledge that monogamy isn’t for everyone. All relationships must have direct and effective communication; you can’t be afraid to talk to your partner and always being honest with yourself.
The best sex in my opinion is sex that pushes our boundaries and makes us anxious. If not, sex just becomes consistent and safe, that equates to boring and limited sex. Experts state that pushing yourself into sex that makes you anxious is not only a sign of growth, but a direct move towards hotter orgasms. As humans we tend to focus on touching the body, and thus ignoring the high arousal of the verbal. I understand that there are those who are not fully into "dirty talk", but a little verbal reinforcement can go a long way in being sexual stimulated. For example dirty talk should be confined to the bedroom, sex can exist anywhere with sexting; furthermore sexting has become one of the best forms of arousal and eroticization.
Sex is about assessing compatibility and opening yourself and partners to what arouses us, and if both are an erotic match. Remembering that what you want sexually is not always possible, and relationships have limits
There is no way that anyone can make someone into a sexual being that they're not, but it's how we respond to a partner that is making a sexual request and especially when it comes down to a deep communication of care. So when asking your partner to talk dirty to you is not just about wanting some filth talk so that you can "get off". It becomes a request to be a good partner and learning how important you and sex are together. If you trust your partner, and you feel comfortable and safe with - asks for sex that tests or is outside of your boundaries, ALLWAYS DO IT!
Just keep in mind that if you want your partner to talk dirty to you, you have to ask for it, no one can read minds. Keep in mind that is you're going to ask something uncommon from someone, be prepared to show them as well. So next time you want some dirty talk make sure you establish boundaries as to what words are acceptable and what words are not. And it’s a bonus if your partner is more on the top or dom side of the sexual continuum, I've learned to test the waters and know that not everyone has the temperament, interest or sexual ability to give me the filth talk, and that's OK!
Two openly gay captains were wed at West Point on January 13, 2018. 26-year old Vincent Franchino married 20 year-old Daniel Hall, this is a historic first for the military academy. they were married at the West Point Cadet's Chapel and the wedding marks a another historic first for the famed U.S. military academy.
Both serve as Apache helicopter pilots at Fort Bliss, El Paso, Texas - they were married in uniform and exited the chapel under a archway of sabers held by other West Point attendees. Hall used his own saber to cut their wedding cake, a gift from his grandparents.
The two met in August 2009, Hall was a senior and Franchino was a freshman. They reportedly began dating in February 2012 just five months after the official repeal of the U.S. ban on openly gay, lesbian and bisexual military service-members known as "Don't Ask, Don't Tell."
Due to the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy they couldn't admit their mutual attraction when they first met. “Through mutual friends at West Point, they each learned the other was gay,” Hall said, “and though we were attracted to one another, we couldn’t say or do anything about it.”
Hall would become Franchino's mentor in a program pairing younger cadets with other older ones on a desired career path. After the repeal of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell", the couple would share their relationship online with their families.
According to the men they have been called "faggots" while holding hands in public. Their biggest worry is when they serve apart at separate locations. Both would try to date other people for awhile instead of having a long-distance relationship, but they would eventually reunited.