Anal bleaching, that's out! Gay men in Thailand are starting a new trend for their nether regions, and getting their penises whitened. Lelux Hospital in Bangkok has reported that almost 100 men have had treatment, mostly identify as LGBT.
The hospital has been known for their body-whitening services and only began to offer this unique service after a customer requested to have his package lighted, after complaining of "dark parts."
Manager Bunthita Wattanasiri told AFT that a lot of people are asking about the procedure and most clients are between 22 and 55-years old and are willing to pay about $650 for five sessions. The procedure uses a tiny laser to whiten the area. "We have to be careful because it's a sensitive part of the body and can be quite painful at times," Wattanasiri said.
After the release of a man undergoing the procedure it started to get an excess of attention. While skin-whiting services are available worldwide, Channel NewAsia has reported that it's very popular in Thailand.
So would you have this done?
Three porn actors two men, and one female have claimed in a Federal law suit that they contracted HIV in 2014 while filming scenes for Kink. U.S. District Judge Dames Donato granted the insurance company a summary judgment saying a physical-sexual abuse exclusion "exempts the insurer from covering claims arising from sexual activity," according to a report in the Courthouse News. The three actors are being represented by Atain Specialty Insurance.
According to one of the actors now retired stated he was infected while filming "Bound in Public" in 2013. Another performer claims that while filming at the Armony in San Francisco, he was blindfolded and required to perform oral sex with dozens of men of the general public - "they were untested, unidentified members of the general public." He tested positive two week later. However does admit he had a cut in his mouth at the time of filming.
“The language of this exclusion is not ambiguous in the context of this policy and the circumstances of this case,” Donato wrote in his 6-page ruling. “Because the contractual language is clear and explicit, it governs.”
In a statement to Courthouse News Karen Tynan attorney for Kink.com in 2015 “None of these claims were made at the time of the shoots, and are easily refuted both by detailed shoot records, our testing protocols, and the video footage itself."
I am sure there are many points of view regarding "bareback", "risky" porn. What are your thoughts?
h/t: Courthouse News
There is no doubt that seniors in the LGBT community are isolated or discriminated. How may times have I heard men at a bar or event say "he's so old", "that man is a creep", "I would never dare be with someone that old", or even worse "he should be dead by now", "He props the bar up." No matter what is said there is this level of disrespect for seniors in the LGBT community. I've heard this 100's of time how this community is suppose to be inclusive, love one another, be there for each other, etc... And as I always say "this community is full of bullshit".
To assume that when someone reaches a certain age their no longer valuable to the community. Maybe the younger generation doesn't care to remember the past. The struggles that many in the senior community had to fight for or sacrifice. We as a community owe it to them to make sure they are taking care of, accepted, and loved. I mean when did you decide to just throw someone away because they have reached a certain age?
I came across an article Address Discrimination in Healthcare Against LGBT Elders from Within the Community, by Robert Vestees. It's an in depth look at the stigmatization LGBT seniors face in healthcare. But it's more than just health care issues that need to be addressed within the community. We have to take a hard look at care-giving issues, financial insecurity, social isolation and access to aging services.
To discard the legacy and history of LGBT seniors would be a disaster to our community. There has to be a proactive move to include senior's in our daily lives. To prove that we are more than the sum of who we are, and that we as a community take care of our own. That regardless of our age we belong, and we have value.
New Orleans is fortunate to have an organization to assist LGBT seniors. For more information contact New Orleans Advocates for LGBT Elders at noagenola.org or call (504) 517-2345.
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Now I don't know about you, but I cannot stand an unclean penis. Especially if the man is uncircumcised (uncut). I mean who wants to go down there if it smells, and we have all been there. Now I understand that there are men who enjoy it unwashed, but I'm not one of them. I was surprised when someone asked me if there was a way to keep it clean. OK, after I got over my shock, I really didn't know the answer (common sense might work). Since I am cut there's never been an issue.
So in response to the question, I have put together 5 steps to keeping your Johnson clean and smelling just right! The fact that I'm even addressing this is just too funny to me, but here we go!
1. Choose a mild soap. Many soaps will contain perfumes that may cause skin irritation (sensitive skin), and some even contain cleaning agents which might be too hard to use on the genitals. For best result try using a mild, unscented soap that can be used on the body, whatever you do don't use hand soap.
3. Wash the penis. Lather up your choice of mild, unscented soap between your hands, and apply it to the testicles and shaft of the penis. The key thing to remember with an uncircumcised penis is to wash under the foreskin.
4. It is important to maintain personal hygiene, but doctors do over warn against over-washing the penis. Frequently washing, especially with soap or shower gel, can cause soreness and irritation. Therefore, you should also thoroughly dry the penis after showering/bathing. If you use talc or body powers on your testicles, resist the urge to powder the penis. Talc if it gets under your foreskin can cause irritation and discomfort.
5. Understand foreskin care. With proper care and hygiene, having an uncircumcised penis does not present any significant health problem; however, failure to clean under the foreskin can cause a buildup of oils and debris, called "smegma." Other common foreskin problems include:
Now I did consult a dermatologist to get basic information about keeping your uncut penis smelling nice, healthy and clean. For the most part it's not rocket science, and it's a pretty simple process.
Source: Peter W. Simoneaux, MD. Dermatologist. Ochsner Clinic. New Orleans, LA
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All women face certain health risks. However, sexual minority women, such as those who identify as lesbian or bisexual as well as women who have sex with women, have some specific health concerns.
Although your individual risks are shaped by many factors beyond your sexual orientation and practices — including family history and age — it's important to understand common health issues for sexual minority women and steps you can take to stay healthy.
SAFEGUARD YOUR MENTAL HEALTH
Minority women are at a higher risk or depression and anxiety. Also, youth who identify themselves as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender have a higher risk of depression and attempted suicide.
Contributing factors include social alienation, discrimination, and rejection by loved ones, abuse and violence. These issue might be more severe for sexual minority women who are not "out" to others and those who lack social support. If left untreated, depression can lead to risky sexual behavior and a downward of spiral of emotional, behavioral, health, and possible legal and financial problems.
PROTECT YOURSELF FROM SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS
Sexually transmitted infections (STI's) such as human papillomavirus (HPV), bacterial vaginosis and trichomoniasis can spread between women. Oral sex and sexual behavior involving digital-vaginal or digital-anal contact, particularly with shared penetrative sex toys, can spread infections as well.
Sexual contact is also a possible means of contracting HIV. To date there is no cure for HIV/AIDS and many sexually transmitted infections, such as HPV and genital herpes. The best way to stay healthy is to always practice safe sex.
TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS:
Make routine health care a priority. Some sexual minority women struggle to find a doctor knowledgeable about their specific health issues and with whom they feel comfortable discussing their needs and concerns. The website for the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association is one place to find referrals for doctors.
Look for a doctor who is curious, emphatic and respectful of your specific needs. Share your sexual orientation with you provider, and ask about routine screenings recommend for women in your age group; such as blood pressure, and cholesterol measurements, and screenings for breast cancer and cervical cancer.
If you're not in a long-term, mutually monogamous relationship, schedule regular screening for sexually transmitted infections (STI's). Share any other health concerns you might have with your doctor as well. Early diagnosis and treatment helps promote long-term health.
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Source: Conhran, Susan, Ph.D. "EPublications." Lesbian and Bisexual Health Fact Sheet. U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services, 16 July 2012. Web. 01 May 2017.
It has always been my opinion that perception is everything when dealing with how people look at one and another. Being gay this is even more important. General society has a wide and varied looked at how we live our lives. When talking about circuit parties that are very popular within the LGBT community, understand that I am not placing everyone in the same "boat", however to deny that sex and drugs run rampant at most circuit parties would be a lie.
I began to think about this topic quite by accident. While talking about circuit parties with a good friend (who travels to many of the circuit parties) we were on the topic of drugs and sex and he stated "I don't think you realize how expensive circuit parties are, how much sex and drugs are available at most of them. It's not something to idealize." What he told me had me thinking, how bad could it really be? You have to understand I live in New Orleans, and one of the South's largest circuit parties is Southern Decadence. Some will yell and scream "it's not a circuit party? Or "You don't know what you're talking about?" Regardless this is my opinion, you don't have to agree or like it, but then ask me if I care?
So, having frank conversations with friends who routinely travel to party weekends like Up Your Alley in San Francisco, the White Party in Miami, or Southern Decadence in New Orleans. I realized that my friends were mostly urban, white, and sexually adventurous. These events bring together sex, music, travel, and the unspoken promise of party drugs. Most circuit parties give a percentage of their funds to LGBT organizations. But if seen as a business - which they are - these events drive a global industry catered exclusively to gay men with deep pockets. The LGBT organizations have no problems accepting the money raised. I do understand that for most this is a major source of money. However, when you try to teach and preach safer sex, HIV education; you in my opinion become a hypocrite.
In the United States, the general public has embraced the monogamous, family oriented image of gay men. But the homophones of American who opposed anything gay just have to glace behind the "black curtain" of these parties and see hundreds of gay men engaging in different "cultural traditions - one that would surely affirm all their ugly prejudice. For example during Southern Decadence you want sex, it's not hard to find. A few of the bars/clubs have no problem with men having sex there, just spend your money. I mean the police at one bar are no more than 20 feet.
These parties can be overwhelming. You discover that party drugs have a nasty habit of increasing sexual risks, you realized that you have paid large fees to get in only to be disappointed., you come to understand that your need to be around other gay men has been manipulated and banked on.
"I remember the last time I stumbled out of a circuit party in New York City at 6 in the morning, trembling and sweating, so fucked up I could hardly speak and walk. In that moment, I felt like a child playing a man's game - or, more accurately, a man being childish". Personal Quote
For example a federal study last year of 6,000 men who attended circuit parties (Southern Decadence, Folsom Street Fair, Hustlaball) found that 95% took at least one illegal drug, 68% reported to having unsafe sex with someone they did not know, 89% abused alcohol, 74% used "poppers", 52% admitted to having a "gang bang", 33% reported they blacked out.
Regardless of how you feel about circuit parties the fact that they raise large amounts of money for LGBT organizations, and have a huge impact on the local community. Many cities report that they have very few issue with party-goers, and don't see a increase of crime. According to local law enforcement they will see an increase in hustlers, drugs, and rape. Local hospitals might see a spike in ER visit; mostly for alcohol, and drug overdoses.
"These parties are creating (HIV-positive) clients," said Troy Masters, publisher of LGNY, a gay newspaper in New York City that has opposed the parties. "You wouldn't find the American Cancer Society throwing a smoking party". A number of charities and public health officials are becoming increasingly uncomfortable with what has become the "dark side" of circuit parties: widespread drug use and random, unprotected sex the very issues they try to discourage. These concerns have lead major HIV/AIDS service organizations to try and detach themselves from the controversy by allowing the parties to be run by promoters, who take a cut of the proceeds and send the rest to the charities, and in some cases charities are worried about the public perception that they support and condone the behavior, and therefore, trying to remove themselves from the party entirely.
For some in the LGBT community circuit parties are a source of great fun, can be liberating, but they do come at a price. Is that cost worth it? We make our own choices and decisions regarding our lives and how we live them. For me personally, what other people do with their life is their own business, if it doesn't concern me I don't care. But you can't pretend or ignore that circuit parties have a darker side, it's just a fact.
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Growing up in the gay community body image is a major factor in today's health-conscious world. Since the start of social media, we have been sharing just about every aspect of our live, not just with our own network of friends, but colleagues, acquaintance, as well as with thousands of total strangers.
Let's be honest with each other, most gay men don't like their bodies very much, which might seem surprising giving the amount of time gay men spend at the gym. Gay men probably devote more time and effort cultivating a physical since than any other demographic group. I appears that gay men tend to dislike their physical appearance are gay men.
So why does this happen? Social media has made our culture a sexualized subculture that places a premium on physical beauty, and the media appears to bombard us with images that reflect and impossibly high standard on physical beauty.
Research has shown that second only to women, gay men suffer from dysmorphia - a preoccupation with some imagined defect in appearance when the person involved is actually very "normal looking". Places where gay men socialize especially bars, gyms, or sex clubs, often emphasize physical attributes or make those the first criterion for checking someone out. It’s difficult for someone who is older than a certain age or different from the prevailing cultural standards of beauty to catch someone’s eye in a bar or club. This has the sad and unintended consequence of leaving some gay men in the social binds most familiar to teenage girls – obsessed about their appearance and feeling like their locus of control lies completely outside of themselves.
If you have trouble accepting your body, there are steps you can take to improve the situation. First, take the concern seriously. Don’t confuse who you are with how you look. Develop a sense of identity based on all of your attributes and on your values. Put your body back together. Consider stretching, yoga and massage as ways to help yourself feel like more than just “skinny legs” or “love handles.” Indulge in body pleasures – long baths, massage, good sex, a walk in the park on a sunny day. Make your own list.
Learn to appreciate body types in all shapes and sizes. Stop trashing men who don’t conform to the “buffed” image. Seek alternative role models. Don’t emphasize body size or shape as an indication of a man’s worth or his identity as a man. Learn to value the person inside. Pay attention to the images used to promote products in our community. Notice the way physical beauty is used to push sales or manipulate us. Talk about this with your friends, too.
And finally, confront homophobia, including internalized homophobia. Don’t accept being treated as a second-class citizen by straight society or by other gay folks.
The majority of the gay population are into anal sex. According to Gregory Underwood, author of Gay Men and Anal Eroticism, states "that 3/4 of gay men have had anal sex at one time or another. Assuming that these men continue to have anal sex that leaves a quarter of gay men that neither have tried it or they no longer have anal sex. So, why is that? What are the basic possible reasons some gay men don't have anal sex or don't like having anal sex?
There could be several reasons this happens:
Personal Taste. While some guys may have tied anal, and discover that they find little or no pleasure in topping and/or bottom. For some gay men this will most likely happen after their "first bad experience", and some have just never tired anal sex and have no desire to participate, either by choice, anxiety or stigma.
Stigma. In our general society there is a stigma associated with men who have anal sex with other men. A top is generally thought to be the dominant, while the bottom is considered more submissive; this isn't always true. This could cause a problem with let's say a bottom who doesn't want to be perceived as the "weaker" or "less dominate" man. Then there is the view that a bottom in society commonly seen as the "female" role in the relationship.
Anxiety. The risk of contracting an STI, from most that can be treated to those that are incurable, this causes quite a bit of anxiety. Anal sex can lead to several fears; so for many this leads to just abstaining from anal sex. For many they will prefer non-penetrative sex as a substitute.
Feelings. Anal sex is considered one of our closest physical connections. Form many there are feelings associated with that level of closeness. Many gay men will abstain from anal sex unless there is an emotion connection with their partner. The emotional physical connection is to some the best way to enjoy and experience anal sex; this may lead to barebacking or anal sex without a condom.
Regardless of what some reason may be, we have to conclude that sex is very personal, and will vary by preferences, pleasures, wants and needs, and desires.
It's important to understand that there is nothing wrong with not being into anal sex. For many gay men they appear happy to live their lives without ever experiencing anal intercourse. Anal sex can be replaced by non-penetrative sex like frottage or intercrural sex. Then again there is oral sex and many other sexual fetishes that do not involve anal penetration. It's about feeling an emotional bond, and having fun with your sexual partner.
How much would you be willing to bare, with regards to sex? Barebacking is not always black and white, especially when situations and/or individuals involved change. If you're having anal sex with a regular sex buddy, or a steady partner, chances are you've been faced with this decision to either bareback or not. The choice to have unprotected anal sex can have lasting effects on your life and future, and can increase your chances of contracting or transmitting HIV or numerous SDI's (STD's).
So the question to ask is why men would have unprotected sex? There are several possible reasons:
Now one could argue that there are benefits to having bareback sex, such as increased sensation in the penis, closeness to a partner(s), or increased spontaneous. Regardless of your personal view, it's a personal choice, and anyone who is going to engage in unprotected will do so regardless of the risk.
But what if both partners are negative? Well, this is a personal choice. You might want to look into the use of PrEP, this might be a good choice for both partners to use. The downside of using PrEP is that it's expensive (covered under most insurance and medicare plans), there could be side effects, and long-term kidney or liver effects as well. It's important that you consult with your personal physician. Only a certified physician can prescribe the drug, and you should have routine checkup.
Always remember that keeping open and honest communication is important in any relationship. Get tested regularly and together. And remember that other pesky bugs beside HIV, so get tested for other STI's as well. Be clear about each other's expectations, and for the sake of your partner(s) always be honest and open about your status.
So regardless if you're in a relationship or not, you enjoy "playing the field", engage is risky sex practices; these are your choices, and no one should have the right to decide for you what is safe or not. Just be aware of all the risks and get tested!
KNOW YOUR STATUS: GET TESTED TODAY!
I remember hearing the term GRID (Gay-Related Immune Deficiency) like many people I didn’t know what it meant. Only that it was taking the lives of many gay men throughout the United States. When I ventured to my first gay bar (Bourbon Pub & Parade) like many there was little medical information and no federal funding; it was a death sentence. Therefore, I understood the importance of protecting myself and to believe that most men might or could have this disease. I don’t recall when I first heard the term HIV/AIDS, but I remember that it replaced the term GRID. My Uncle Peter (family friend) also told me “protect yourself at all time, nobody else will”; I have just always remember that quote from him.
NO/AIDS Task Force for as long as I can remember has always been around, the first in New Orleans to establish a telephone hotline/ community outreach (1983), distribution of condoms/ HIV testing and counseling (1985), case management, support groups, substance abuse/ mental health counseling (1990); just to name a few of the many services that they provide. This agency has been in the forefront of HIV/AIDS testing, prevention and services. It is their belief that it is important to reach as many people in the New Orleans community as possible. Considering the New Orleans metro area and Baton Rouge has the highest HIV/AIDS rates per capita in the United States according to the CDC (HIV Surveillance Report, Volume 27), New Orleans Metro Area ranked 2nd, and Baton Rouge Ranked 3rd.
When you think about the high levels of HIV/AIDS just in the New Orleans area you can see why agencies like NO/AIDS spends an enormous about of time and resources helping those in the community. However, there are several roadblocks that prevent them from reaching more within the community; lack of education, social stigmas, cultural differences, and inadequate/unstable funding sources. NO/AIDS relies on the generous support of the community, and corporate donations, and hold several events throughout the year to not only raise money, but awareness. Now for many it was assumed that NO/AIDS was either taken over or merged with CrescentCare of New Orleans, but in fact it has always been a part of the NO/AIDS Task Force; NO/AIDS simply changed their name to CrescentCare.
CrescentCare provides medical assistance to anyone regardless of their ability to pay. Their services are vast; from primary medical services, dental care and even behavioral health.
Because of CrescentCare they now have access to more federal grants and funding. Which is a huge help in the fight against HIV/AIDS and STI’s. According to their website they also provide HIV and STI testing, PrEp, case management and support services (food pantry, home delivered meals, housing, legal services and much more). Currently they serve more than 5,000 people each year and 30,000 with HIV and STI prevention education.
It’s hard to believe that the NO/AIDS Task Force has been providing needed services for more than 33 years, it is the largest provider of HIV/AIDS medical services in Louisiana and the South. Their commitment to the community is unwavering, and as the health care of the community changes so does their mission. As we wait and watch to see what happens with the ACA (Affordable Care Act), many people are concerned with how they will receive medical services or medications; CrescentCare is dedicated to be there for the community regardless of what happens to the ACA, and is aware of the high anxiety in the community about the possible repeal of the ACA. Augustin Correro of CrescentCare said it best “it’s been a long road, and we still have much work to do within and for the community”.
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