WHAT IS ADULT BULLYING?
It is defined in various ways, but typically it's abused aimed at an individual or group of people repeatedly, by other people or groups of people. It is important to understand that there are different types of adult bullies and how they operate. Here are a few tips:
ADULT BULLYING FACTS
The basic characteristic of a bully is low self-esteem, research has suggested that tend to feel superior to others. So instead of having a regular self-outlook, they have a pathologically high view of themselves. So when a bully feels slighted their egos causes them to lose control and lash out, it's like a defense mechanism all to maintain their 'dignity'.
WHAT IS ADULT BULLYING? PERSONAL ISSUES
You might think that as a person matures, they would give up their childish habits. Unfortunately, this usually doesn't happen with bullies. Their main goal is to assert power over another person and look untouchable.
ADULT BULLYING FACTS:
Here are a few signals of workplace bullying. It might appear that some of these behaviors may not seem related, regular recurrences are warning signs.
There is very little you can do to change an adult bully because they see no reason to change. they enjoy and sometimes take pleasure in making life difficult and uncomfortable for people, thus their not interested in discussing the issue. But don't be discouraged, you might be able to file a suit for harassment in a civil court if your employer refuses to address the issue. But just remember you need to have proof! Here is some way you might be able to deter an adult bully.
DON'T BLAME YOURSELF
Never blame yourself for other person's actions. Everyone is responsible for their own behavior. An adult bully is a coward who only seeks to get a rise out of you and vent out their own feelings of inferiority and insecurity. You have to show them that their behavior isn't affecting you as best as you can.
BE NICE TO THEM
Now, this may not work or have little effect, but understand that a bully might have received poor treatment from other's in their life. Kindness can go a long way, but if you have tried this several times and they continue to bully, then it's time to give up and seek other avenues. Remember a bully is not going to direct their behavior towards someone who is higher in authority.
Go ahead and stand up to them, show them you are not afraid by openly confronting them. It may not work right away, but constantly displaying confidence and standing up for yourself draws unwanted attention to the bully. Bring nearness to their actions and behavior; which they typically don't want. Remain calm, and stand your ground!