How much would you be willing to bare, with regards to sex? Barebacking is not always black and white, especially when situations and/or individuals involved change. If you're having anal sex with a regular sex buddy, or a steady partner, chances are you've been faced with this decision to either bareback or not. The choice to have unprotected anal sex can have lasting effects on your life and future, and can increase your chances of contracting or transmitting HIV or numerous SDI's (STD's).
So the question to ask is why men would have unprotected sex? There are several possible reasons:
Now one could argue that there are benefits to having bareback sex, such as increased sensation in the penis, closeness to a partner(s), or increased spontaneous. Regardless of your personal view, it's a personal choice, and anyone who is going to engage in unprotected will do so regardless of the risk.
But what if both partners are negative? Well, this is a personal choice. You might want to look into the use of PrEP, this might be a good choice for both partners to use. The downside of using PrEP is that it's expensive (covered under most insurance and medicare plans), there could be side effects, and long-term kidney or liver effects as well. It's important that you consult with your personal physician. Only a certified physician can prescribe the drug, and you should have routine checkup.
Always remember that keeping open and honest communication is important in any relationship. Get tested regularly and together. And remember that other pesky bugs beside HIV, so get tested for other STI's as well. Be clear about each other's expectations, and for the sake of your partner(s) always be honest and open about your status.
So regardless if you're in a relationship or not, you enjoy "playing the field", engage is risky sex practices; these are your choices, and no one should have the right to decide for you what is safe or not. Just be aware of all the risks and get tested!
KNOW YOUR STATUS: GET TESTED TODAY!