In a recent interview with Gay Star News, professional wrestler Mike Parrow talked about dealing with being gay and living in a "closet". This was his first time speaking openly about his sexuality along with the long journey on accepting himself.
Four years ago the Orlando native would let close friends and family four years ago; but admits that he tired to fight his same-sex feelings by dating women. Something he regrets as he got older it would be hard to have any type of emotional relationship with women and therefore would end it by stating "I just don't think you're pretty." Something he wishes he could take back.
Moving to Orlando in his late 20's he stated that it was "absolutely the worst experience in my life." Believing it would be the perfect time to explore his sexuality. He learned that gay men could be the meanest, cruelest people you've ever met and that you can be masculine-shamed in the gay community in which he added "weird, but it happens." It would drive him to contemplate suicide and even sign up for conversion therapy, in which he describes as an "absolute joke."
Coming out to his family he admits was the hardest thing he every had to do, but understanding if he was going to be true to himself and to be himself he had to. His mother a Sunday school teacher summed it up perfectly " God doesn't make mistakes."
‘I told my dad and he was like, “Yeah?” And I’m like, “Yeah?” And he was like, “Well, you’ve got to give me some credit. I am a detective. I kind of figured that out of all the girls you kept denying that you didn’t like girls, I was just waiting for you to tell me!” Mike Parrow
With regards to his wrestling career it appears that he has not run into much homophobia, and when he does he address it ‘When I personally hear those things I address it. So, I will go up to them and say, “If you have a problem, we can discuss this.” he stated.
It appears that more professional athletes come out as gay and breaking down stereotypes and barriers. It shows the progress of the LGBT community. However, even we have to admit we have a long way to go to accepting people who they are and the choices they make in their lives.
What are your thoughts?
Formula One driver Lewis Hamilton spent the day with his family, and shared parts of his day on Instagram. However in one video the 32 year old appeared to be upset that his nephew Kaiden was wearing a purple/pink tulle princess dress.
He opens the clip with saying "I'm so sad right now...look at my nephew" He then turn the camera on his nephew, was seems happy as he waved a wand and looking quite happy. The driver then proceeded to ask his nephew:
"Why are you wearing a princess dress? Is this what you got for Christmas? Why did you ask for a princess dress for Christmas, boys don't wear Christmas dresses!"
You can view the video clip here: https://twitter.com/JustNabz/status/945375584401739776
The video has now been taken down, but that has not stopped social media from expressing their opinion (somewhat angry) that the driver appeared to mock his nephews rather cool Christmas present. Maybe he should take a page out of the books of Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau and pop superstar Adele.
So, I wonder if Lewis Hamilton will have an explanation for the video. Was he just playing around? Or was he making fun of his nephews choice of Christmas presents? What I find most disturbing is the fact that he filmed his nephew, while mocking him then posted to his Instagram account. Opening his nephew to those out there that might agree with the driver. SHAMEFUL!
In a recent study researches found that gay couples appear to be happier in their relationships than straight couples, and in another study found gays are better at sex.
Indiana University reached out to more than 2,000 gay's (gay, lesbian and bisexuals) and 50,000 straight individuals. The study was conducted across the United States. And the results are pretty surprising
What was interesting wast that gay men reported that they have had an orgasm 89% during sex, lesbians 86%. Straight men reported to have orgasm-ed 95% of the time, and straight women only 65% of the time. So let just assume that straight couples both climax 65% of the time, well then we can assume that gay and lesbian partners are doing really good when it come to sex. look at it this way gay couples come out 24 and 21 percent ahead of straight couples, which show you that gay couples appear to have more fun during sex.
Do you know what I did to the last guy that called me Tinkerbelle. Slept with him? Dani Alexander
However the report did show that bisexual men have orgasms 88% of the time during sex, bi women were not so fortunate at 66% of the time reach an orgasm. Research has found that bisexuals consistently have the lowest life satisfactions among LGBT people.
So, it appears that gay men lead the pack when it come to satisfaction, but lets me honest it's not always the case. But gay men tend to be more primeval and physical, this might explain whey gay men enjoy engaging in sex. Lesbians tend to be more passionate and there is a strong emotional bond. Either way the study shows there is no denying gay couples enjoy sex much more than straight couples. YEAH!
What do you think?
According to a new research letter gay and bisexual youth have a high risk of suicidal behavior. Published in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA), gay, lesbian, bisexual and questioned high school students in the United States were at a higher risk of suicide than their straight counterparts.
Date from the 2015 National Youth Risk Behavior Survey found that 40% of LGBT youth has considered suicide, 35% has planned suicide, and 25% have attempted suicide. Compared to heterosexual teens only 15% considered, 12% planned and 6% had attempted suicide.
Just fearing how their family or friends may react to their sexual orientation can isolate youth and profoundly harm their mental health,” sociologist Anna Mueller, from the University of Chicago, told Science News.
In a national survey 16,000 youth were questioned, 89% of the participants identified as heterosexual, 2% as gay or lesbian, 6% bisexual, and 3.2% were questioning or unsure. Bisexual teens were the most at risk, with 46% saying they has considered suicide in the past year, according to the study.
Senior study author John Ayers, a researcher at San Diego State University told Reuters "LGBT teens face staggeringly high suicide risk, and we must recognize LGBT teen suicide is a national public health crisis and bring extraordinary resources to bear to address the crisis."
One issue the study didn't address was asking about respondents' gender identity, meaning date for transgender people aren't available.
Three porn actors two men, and one female have claimed in a Federal law suit that they contracted HIV in 2014 while filming scenes for Kink. U.S. District Judge Dames Donato granted the insurance company a summary judgment saying a physical-sexual abuse exclusion "exempts the insurer from covering claims arising from sexual activity," according to a report in the Courthouse News. The three actors are being represented by Atain Specialty Insurance.
According to one of the actors now retired stated he was infected while filming "Bound in Public" in 2013. Another performer claims that while filming at the Armony in San Francisco, he was blindfolded and required to perform oral sex with dozens of men of the general public - "they were untested, unidentified members of the general public." He tested positive two week later. However does admit he had a cut in his mouth at the time of filming.
“The language of this exclusion is not ambiguous in the context of this policy and the circumstances of this case,” Donato wrote in his 6-page ruling. “Because the contractual language is clear and explicit, it governs.”
In a statement to Courthouse News Karen Tynan attorney for Kink.com in 2015 “None of these claims were made at the time of the shoots, and are easily refuted both by detailed shoot records, our testing protocols, and the video footage itself."
I am sure there are many points of view regarding "bareback", "risky" porn. What are your thoughts?
h/t: Courthouse News
Liam Davis a midfielder for Cleethorpes Town soccer club wants to encourage other sports players to come out and not have any apprehension about being gay. He thought it was important to share his own experiences when he came out and continues to offer advice to younger players. He attributes his ability to come out in part because Uefa's Equal Game campaign.
“Don’t over-worry and overthink things. I don’t think it will be as big an issue as you think.
I never once thought about football when I came out. It was just a case of: this is who I am, and I think this is the time to tell people who I am.
But I would never, ever overthink it. And then football just fell into place. It was out of season at the time. I joined a new team, didn’t think about it and everything went on like normal.”
It's important to him that fans and people in general understand that when you're playing his sexual orientation, or the orientation of other plays isn't important. He firmly believes that both players can thrive, even if they face disparaging comments or slurs.
Uefa's President Aleksander Ceferin stated “We do not tolerate any kind of homophobic, racist or sexist behavior, and we will always stand for values such as diversity, gender equality and social inclusion.” As part of the organizations anti-discrimination stance.
Liam thoughts and advice to other players thinking of coming out “My advice to a young gay footballer at any level or any standard is just to be themselves,” he says.
So, what do you think? Are sports teams become more accepting of LGBT players?
h/t: The Independent
Have you ever thought about kink, and what would it be like. Well lets just say you might be in for a surprise. Researcher Katharine Gates looked into the world of kink, this vast sometime unknown scene of desire. Her new book "Deviant Desires: A Tour of the Erotic Edge" she explores the vast world of kink and ties them all together in a chart. How they are somewhat interchanged with each other, some are just downright predatory and in some cases criminal.
Gabriel H. Sanchez interviewed Katherine Gates for BuzzFeed. This is the complete article "10 Sex Kinks That Prove There's No One Way To Do It".
What do you Think?
A news study of more than 25,000 people in the United Kingdom and 9,000 in Australia conducted by Janeen Baxter and Francisco Perales of the University of Queensland found that same-sex couples are indubitably happier than their straight counter parts. However the study showed that bisexuals are less happier in relationships.
It was suggested that same-sex couples might have stronger bonds because they're less intent on sticking to tried-and-true gender roles. “Individuals in same-sex couples (particularly lesbian women) generally are more equitable in the ways in which they allocate domestic work, including childcare.” While straight couples tend to always want to reaffirm gender roles, which can lead to a destructive power dynamic.
Relationship quality in same-sex couples was as high as in heterosexual couples in the United Kingdom,” they conclude, “and higher in Australia.
The research showed to some extent that gay couples sometimes or more than likely feel aligned with the LGBT community or like-minded couples. This might explain their happiness: “Individuals in same-sex relationships may be more likely than those in different-sex relationships to have high relationship investment….This study shows a strong support for the changing of laws and policies to legalize adoption and parenting rights for same-sex couples. At the same time the study shows a strong need to pay attention to bisexual individuals since their outcomes are comparatively poor.
WHAT DO YOU THINK? IN YOUR EXPERIENCE ARE GAY COUPLES HAPPIER?
At some point in our lives we have felt awkward in a social setting. It's going to happen and for some it truly effects them in way we commonly don't understand. This is especially true in the LGBT community. If you have spent any time in the community you understand the pressures placed on you, for some the pressure is intense and caused some to withdraw completely.
An article published by Help Guide titled "Dealing with Loneliness & Shyness: Making Friends if you Feel Shy or Socially Awkward". The article provides information and tips to help overcome social shyness; how to deal with setbacks & rejection, overcoming your biggest fears, tackling social insecurity & fear.
The attitude of some in the LGBT community is that there must be something wrong with a person who is shy or socially awkward. Most are ridiculed, look down upon, made fun of, or ostracized from the community. This leads in my opinion of feeling worthless. How many times have you been at a bar, seen someone and made a comment because that person is quite and sits alone? We tend to reject anyone that doesn't fit into our preconceived idea of what is "normal" (whatever that's suppose to mean).
Shyness is invariably a suppression of something. It's almost a fear of what you're capable of. Rhys Ifans
Being shy shouldn't be a barrier to being who you want to be. There should be an understanding that we grow up in different environments and cultures. Some even suggest that social media has caused an entire generation to lose the ability to engage in social situations.
Maybe we should examine our own behavior towards others, instead of excluding other's simply because they tend to stay to themselves. Make an attempt to understand and engage.
It appears that if you are HIV positive you are not allowed to obtain a certificate that is required to obtain a commercial airline pilots licence. A man from Glasgow was originally accepted into EasyJets training program, however wasn't granted a certificate by the Civil Aviation Authority (CAA), and all because of European regulations. The EASA (European Aviation Safety Agency has a long and outdated regulations with prohibits persons with HIV from obtaining the certificate required to pilot commercial planes.
The anonymous pilot stated "I find this utterly devastating and called the policy "outdated" and "inherently discriminatory." As of now anyone that is currently training and are HIV cannot get a full license, but are allowed to co-pilot.
A CAA spokesperson stated "where it is safe to do so, and will continue to work with EASA and HIV experts to reassess this regulation, with a view to enabling applicants to obtain an initial Class 1 medical certificate.” but also stated "We support a rule change in this area." The EASA went on to state “A rule change takes time, and It needs to be considered by experts, and we need to plan it and prioritized by performing impact assessment."
“However, EASA and the NAA (National Aviation Authority) medical experts agreed that a rule change should be considered due to the availability of new HIV medications.
These medications could provide for a more flexible regulatory approach and allow the need for an OML restriction to be determined on a case-by-case basis, largely dependent on the stage of the HIV.
In future, this would allow some prospective pilots having HIV to obtain a license without an OML restriction.”
EasyJet only support changes when "When it's safe to do so."
It is astounding that people living with HIV are still discriminated against. Shows society that even today it can happen.