A South African court has denied a gay couple the right to adopt a child and the judge did it for a good reason. The adoption would not be in the child’s best interests for two basic reasons. The couple were only identified by their initials CJD & HN.
The Judge Ronel Tomay ruled that "HN’s fear that his medical practice would be affected if he came out would be detrimental to the child. She suggested that HN being in the closet could lead him to not acknowledge the child in public." using the following scenario "I can see a little toddler excitedly running towards his father in public, shouting out ‘daddy’… Would the father pretend not to be the parent? How would this impact the child,” Tolmay asked.
The second reason stated, despite acknowledging that the two men are in a loving and stable relationship, Tolmay also rejected the application because they live in separate homes, although they spend much of their time together.
Attorney and LGBT rights activist Coenie Kukkuk stated that she doesn't believe the judge's ruling was discriminatory. Stating “Judge Ronel Tolmay is one of the most progressive judges on the bench. As an advocate she took on many cases for LGBTs when she still practiced law,” and further insisted “I can assure you that this judgment is in the best interest of the child. The High Court is the Upper Guardian of all children and a decision like this would not have been lightly made.”
While there are some that believe that this ruling isn't fair or just, and believe that there are two sets of rules for adopting children. Further stating that many single or divorced heterosexual parents do not live together and that children often live between two homes. The only difference is that one of the parents isn't hiding their sexuality. And would it fair to subject a child to conform a parents fear of being gay? How would this effect a child as they grow up? Would that child be required to not acknowledge one of their parents? Be expected to refer to one parent as a uncle or family friends? And what about honesty, you want to teach your child to be themselves, honest, respect who they are and one parent sets aside those rules for the sake of their business.
What do you think?
Image purchased from istock.com and used for commercial use only.
Just about everyone in the South has grown up with an appreciation for food and cooking. Learning to cook in Louisiana it’s almost a rite of passage. We gather for food for just about everything, a wedding, death, birthdays, graduations; to be honest we don’t even need a reason.
My first memories of my great-grandmother (my dad’s side) was her kitchen. It was a room filled with amazing things, all conversations were held in the kitchen, and the grocery list would hang from a magnet on the refrigerator. I remember if you went into her kitchen you had better be prepared to help, either peeling carrots, shucking beans, or setting the table. It always seemed like a madhouse with precise order. For my great-grandmother cooking was a passion, using receipts handed down from generation to generation. Adding over the year her own touch to family receipts.
This is where I must be completely honest, I’m not a cook in any sense of the word. I couldn’t tell the difference between a zucchini and butternut squash. But for a few in New Orleans cooking is a passion, a mission to explore food and the art of cooking.
Poppy Tooker was born and raised in New Orleans, and cooking for her began in her great-grandmother kitchen, a deep rooted fascination with food and cooking. “My great-grandmother taught me to love people with food” and “Sunday dinners were a special time, the table set with the best china, and conversation”, she stated. While in high school she relates that she had to cook, since her mother couldn’t, it was during this time that she truly developed the passion for cooking.
The decline of cooking would become more prevalent between the 1980s and 90s, as people were more concerned with dining out. Poppy describes this much like after “WWII people lost the ability to sew because of the prevalence of ready to wear clothing.” Another fear she shares is that “in 25 years the dining table will no longer exist.” Her belief is that an entire generation could lose the passion for shopping, preparing, and presenting a fabulous meal. To Poppy, there is an excitement for shopping, then preparing the food, and finally watching guests enjoying the food. It really is a passion and a deep love for Poppy.
It’s her desire to covey and champion people to grow, prepare good food, nurture a culture and uphold the tradition of cooking and compel people to think about the differences in food. On her radio show on WWNO Louisiana Eats, it’s about introducing people to food and cooking, and to smile, she says “I always smile into the microphone, people can feel that smile.”
Then where does her devotion to the LGBT community come from? Paul Doll and Tom Struve opened the first gay restaurant Flamingo’s Café that crossed Canal Street. Poppy recounts an incident involving a somewhat uptight man; as she was bringing drinks they slipped off the tray and splashed on the man leg. Upset he was approached by one of the owners, and they offered to pay the dry-cleaning bill stated that “this might not be the restaurant for him and his friend.” At that moment Poppy understood the compassion to protect, and love someone that not only worked for them but had become family. A bit of history; it was Paul Doll and Tom Struve that founded WWNO. It was also the loss of many friends during the 80s due to AIDS that Poppy became a solid fixture in the LGBT community, something she continues today with her Drag Brunches, that raises money for Food for Friends.
Regardless of what you think about food and cooking, there is no way you can’t walk away from Poppy without feeling that passion, it is contagious. Her passion is evident whenever she talks about it. She is funny and has a wicked sense of humor that I love. She has written and revised several cookbooks, and her radio show Louisiana Eats continues to be a favorite among food enthusiast. Where does she go from here? Well, if it involves cooking, there is good bet she’ll be around.
catch poppy on
Steppin Out - Friday nights at 7:30PM on WYES
Louisiana Eats Saturdays at 11:00AM and Wednesday at 1:00PM on WWNO/ NPR Podcasts
follow poppy on social media
Images are the property of Poppy Tooker and cannot be copied and/or reproduced without written permission.
The GayVN Awards recently came out with their nomination for the gay porn industry and to say that the porn industry isn't racist would be laughable. For example in Best Actor and Best Supporting Actor categories all the nominees are white; not one black, Asian, or Hispanic actor was named.
Why is this? Well, some point the finger at many of porn studios or their complete lack of willingness to hire people of color. Then there is the media which must bare some of the responsibility for the problem. The "gay" media tends to neglect or highlight people of different nationalities.
Recently porn actor, model and GayVN Awards nominee Hugh Hunter noticed this complete lack of representation, and called out the 'Best Ethnic Scene' for marginalizing minority groups. Aside from the color of their skin, what is the difference between white gay porn actors and black (Asian, Hispanic) porn actors? What could possibility be the reason to create a new categories(s)?
On Twitter Hunter proceeded to decline his three nominations, stating "I am respectfully declining my nominations in all categories". It remain unknown if any other porn actors will step up to the plate and decline their nominations. To be honest it's unlikely, but they you never know.
Daniel Addice of Hornet summed this up perfectly. "The category of Best Ethnic Scene is also problematic as it further reinforces the fetishization of races. By creating this category in the likeness of other scene-specific categories like Best Bear Scene, Best Twink Scene, and Best Fetish Scene, race becomes the fixation of the award, not the performance."
The question remains how does on combat racism in the gay porn industry? Well, it has to start with the studio's, then the actor's and finally the gay culture. I'm not going to hold my breath, but I do have respect for Hugh Hunter and what he has done. BRAVO!
Images purchased on istock.com and for commercial use only.
Brandon Myers isn't know for being shy when posting to his Instagram account. However the latest images that he has posted, well lets shy he's really not shy.
He currently can be seen on Bromans - and decided to take a few pictures of himself surrounded by four mirrors. Make no mistakes Mr. Myers didn't "accidentally" take or post the images. I find it surprising that most men, especially straight men post these pictures. How many have then cried fowl, saying they shouldn't have been posted? Let's be real these men know know what their doing. An accident I don't think so!
What do you think?
Well what can be said? Only in New Orleans could you walk around wearing a jockstrap and it's completely normal. However the title is a little misleading. There is just one scene where he's in a jockstrap, but he doesn't walk through the streets in one. Maybe other publications should watch the video.
Happy almost-Thanksgiving, guys! Here is the lost-but-not-forgotten “Walking” Music Video we shot in New Orleans all the way back in May! My original idea didn’t quite pan out, but John Lavin (Director and Editor) did an amazing job with a lot of the silliness we captured! And after thinking on it for the last few months, I’ve decided a lot of you would probably still get a kick out of all the fun and behind the scenes silliness we had on the single day we shot all of this ? So here is our cornucopia of crazy just in times for Thanksgiving! :D
WHAT DO YO THINK? HERE'S THE VIDEO.
Since 2013 at least 102 transgender people have been the victim of fatal violence in the United States alone according to a new report by The Human Rights Campaign in conjunction with the Trans People of Color Coalition.
Released last week, the report says that of the recorded findings at least 25 transgender people were killed in the U.S. in 2017, which makes it the deadliest year for transgender people in a decade. Fatal violence against transgender people is on the rise with highest rates toward trans women in the Black and African American communities.
The highest number of transgender deaths were reported in California and Louisiana, at 10 each, followed by Texas at 9 deaths, and Ohio at 8.
The report states that the increase in violence is: “fueled by anti-LGBTQ prejudice, racism, too-easy access to guns, and increasing political attacks on the transgender community at both the state and federal level,” with half of LGBTQ youth saying in a post-2016 election youth survey conducted by The Human Rights Campaign, that they have taken steps to hide who they are since the election.
In the past 12 months, 325 trans and gender-diverse people were reported murdered globally, according to website Transgender Europe, with a total of 2609 trans and gender-diverse people reported killed in 71 countries between January 2008 and September 2017.
We attempted to contact the NOPD liaison regarding the two unsolved murders of transgender women, we were directed to their website.
Author: Troy Murphy. November 21, 2017. DNA Magazine
Image purchased from istock.com and for commercial use only.
Tonight at the Golden Lantern the Southern Decadence Grand Marshals Princesse Stephaney, Coca J Mesa and Persana Shoulder awarded $6,716.00 to both NOAGE and Dodwell House. The money given was raised during the summer before the Southern Decadence parade.
Images are the property of Squirrel News and cannot be copied and/or reproduced without written permission.
This past Saturday NOAGE a support organization for LGBT seniors in New Orleans and surrounding areas held their annual benefit. NOAGE provides support, assistance, social functions for the LGBT seniors in our community. They provide educational seminars for area health care facilities; to help educate others on the the needs of LGBT seniors.
NOAGE Goes on Safari was held at the Cajun Ballroom within the Swamp Exhibit at Audubon Zoo. It was really an amazing event. This is a source funds for NOAGE, they also present the Trailblazing Award, an award given to someone who has impacted and has effected change within the LGBT community through public and political action and the NOAGE Community Impact Award, given to individuals who have made a positive impact on the LGBT community.
This years recipient was Liz Simone. Her journey stared in the late 1970's where she became a political activist concerning feminist issues. She was instrumental in the organization of W.A.V.A.W. (Women Against Violence Against Women). She would also be up front in center in the 1980's as she assumed a leading role in the organizing of Take Back the Night March. LAGPAC which formed in 1980 would ask Ms. Simone to sit on its Board of Directors, remembering that this organization was in its infancy. This would start Ms. Simone on a road to active political activity in local city government. A means to let the LGBT community to understand that local politicians needed the vote of member of the LGBT community. 1984 would see the conception of the Coming Out Support Group, a free service to the Lesbian and Gay community and in 1997 the group later expanded to serve the transgender population. Throughout her life Ms. Simone worded to assist the LGBT community, hosting workshops to mental health professionals and education to assist them in understanding the LGBT community and how to best deal with our population. We salute you Ms. Liz Simone for your dedication, support, and passion!
Rip Naquin and Marsha Delain are the recipients of the NOAGE Community Impact Award. An award that is given to individuals that have contributed to the LGBT community throughout the years and have made a positive impact within the community.
Images are the property of Squirrel news and cannot be copied and/or reproduced without written permission.
Recently HRC suspends Walmart's CEI score. The conclusion was that while Walmart might have a LGBT policy, it isn't enforced. Reports show that Walmart did little to nothing to protect LGBT employee's from discrimination. For awhile it was unclear why Walmart received such a high score on the CEI index. One theory is that Walmart like many companies only seek to attract LGBT dollar's and really don't care one way or the other about issues in the LGBT community.
It appears that HRC's reticence to modify its application or enforcement of polices says volumes about the power corporations have over the LGBT movement Recently HRC was asked to sign a letter demanding Nissan to take a neutral position on recent union elections at Nissan. HRC refused to sign the letter.
The Human Rights Campaign finally acknowledged the retail giant is not treating its employees — including LGBT employees — humanely. Jerame Davis says HRC should have made this point much sooner.
An article written by Jerame Davis and Michele Kessler they highlighted issues not only with HRC's CEI scoring but how corporation have a hold over HRC and other community leader. Just because they sponsor pride events, create floats doesn't mean that companies are treating or actively combating LGBT discrimination in the workplace.
Maybe until HRC can actually do something for the LGBTQ community instead of pandering to corporations we should suspend our donations.
Image purchased at istock.com and used for commercial use only.
Sexy is defined by a personal perceptive of what attracts us to another person. So I looked over photographer Austin Wondo's pictures that were showcased in Queerly of what he considers sexy. Now don't get me wrong the images are worth looking at; however, for the most part it was just well built men in skimpy underwear. There were some men with average to husky builds, but they were far few. I'm not sure there were 85 types displayed!
What do you think? Would you say a wide rage of "body types" are represented?