Having grown up in the South I have of admit that I'm a little bias. I remember my mother pounding it into me that southern men should have impeccable manners, always hold the door open for ladies, napkins should be placed on your lap, never talk back to your elders, never raise your voice, along with many other rules of proper manners. Anyone who has grown up there understands this!
But it's the accent that's the most desirable, do southern men live up to their charm in other ways, too? Why, yes, they do? They don't call us "southern gentlemen" for nothing.
So, why do southern guys make the best boyfriends? (Just note that this isn't always true, there are crappy, rude and stupid southern men, like anywhere else).
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By: Bryan O'Malley 10/20/2017 9:00AM
There was a time years ago that I was completely enamored with drag performers – their wit, nerve and gowns – I couldn’t image a world without them. Drag queens were impression court jesters of the scene. Gleefully catty and incisive entertainers who always got the party started. However, these days I’m afraid there are more drag queens performing per square foot than there are Walgreen’s and Chase Banks!
It seems that wherever you go guys are shaving, tucking, teasing, frosting and trying to be funny. You can find them just about everywhere; in bars, restaurants, the streets, social media, they’re just coming out everywhere. Don’t get me wrong I’m glad that shows such as RuPaul’s Drag Race has given many people the courage to sew, lip-synch, and throw their arms in the air. In effect a voice to the disenfranchised, and that great.
Since the evolution of social media bars have had to evolve therefore drag has become prevalent; thus, driving out other forms of entertainment. As large dance clubs started to wain thanks to Grindr (and other apps), it has made going out almost completely unnecessary to hook up. This has caused bars to ramp up their relevance and try to lure some people in for a drink and a giggle, and they did this by putting drags queens on stage, then more drag queens, and move drag queens, until you go home with the taste of Aqua Net in your mouth, and the permeating smell of perfume. For the bars this is a win-win situation. Drag queens come with their own wigs, music, costumes and their performances pat down – so you just put them on a stage and they keep the gays happy for a few minutes, and then they scream, “Go buy drinks! The drunker you are, the better I look!”
In New Orleans there are numerous gay bars, and almost all of them feature drag queens flouncing around trying to amuse the crowd so you won’t leave (It’s better than bolting the doors shut). Some of these bars feature drag queens at least three to four times a week. It’s a drag emporium – a virtual showcase of all things gender bending – I mean how many lip-sync performances does one have to see during the week? To be honest it gets old watching someone flapping his lips and doing some spins, and getting up in your face as if you want to watch lips move, but no sound. This appears to be happening at social events in and around the city. It seems that almost every event has a Drag queen performing numbers you haven’t experienced since a whole night ago, lol!
To be honest I’m not mad about this development. I do adore the drag aesthetic and I get a little excited when a new, and eager new comer comes along and gives us a surprise. I just wish they didn’t try so hard to be famous – or perform another Rihanna song. And I wish some of them didn’t follow a predetermined formula, while assuming that wearing a dress automatically make you brilliant and subversive. I would like to occasionally see a comedian without accessories. Is that so much to ask for?
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Drug use in the LGBT community is a well know issue, however, for many this is the only escape they have to relieve the rejection from their own peers. I came across this article How Dose Social Rejection Contribute to Addiction? The statics are frightening when you really look at the numbers. The use of drugs in the LGBT community are quite alarming as seen in this addiction report. While this is an older article it is just as important now, especially since we are exposed to social apps that put an undue burden on physical appearances. Now I'm not implying that social apps are the main cause, for many it has allowed many to express themselves more freely, and find people who are into the same things they are, however, the fact remains that when you look at profiles you see some pretty harsh requirements for "hooking up".
But let's put that aside. Even in the bars or other social scenes there's this since of I'm better than you, or you don't fit in (whatever that's suppose to mean). Now even I understand that not all drug use can be contributed to social rejections. Many people use drugs for various reasons, such as, sexual abuse, or mental or physical violence. There are many reasons to be honest.
So, how do we address this issue of social rejection? It has must start with us a community, to accept everyone for who they are and not judge. What are your thoughts?
My fascination with Dj's is something new these days. I find it intriguing and interesting to interview DJ's. I came across DJ Dan Slater when I noticed that he would be performing at Oz New Orleans this Halloween. As with most stories I write it starts with basic curiosity.
He started his career by performing in musical theater throughout Australia. Needing a new challenge, he attended university and studied Business in Marketing, but it was his desire to be creative that lead him to learn what he could about being a DJ. "I never expected things to take off like this." In the world of DJ'ing, he is relatively new but has managed to make a name for himself. First starting in Sydney for Mardi Gras he has quickly become one of the best and most sought out DJ's. Performing at venues around he has worked at The Week (Brazil), We Word Pride Festival (Madrid) and Winter Party Festival (Miami). With regards to production, he admits that having his remix "I Walk Alone" by Cher which peaked at number 2 on Billboard's Hot Dance Club Songs and thus inspired him to work on remixes and his own original tracks.
There is no doubt that staying true to one's sound, while remaining current is always a challenge and he freely admits that this can be hard. With those challenges comes the reward of producing your own music and used for a live performance is quite special to him.
I’ve been lucky enough to play at numerous clubs and events around the world and every experience is very different. In some countries electronic music and events are still relatively new, so the events may be smaller or more intimate. But the crowds are still so enthusiastic and the energy is great. DJ Dan Slater
It appears that DJ Slater likes getting the crowd involved which becomes a mix of their favorites, music he personally likes and enjoys hearing. He knows that he must be able to read the audience and the vibe of the crowd is just as important, he stated: "you have to be able to change the direction of your set to build a better energy. It's a balance of old and new tracks, keeping your sound and set fresh."
He truly believes that clubs have and will remain a great place of the discovery and appreciation of electronic music because you can see a live DJ performance, feel the music and is very different than to listen to a track or podcast. As the music is important so is the space it is performed at, there must be a relationship between the music and space, or it's just not going to work according to DJ Slater. He clearly knows that music is universal, and appreciates the differences and styles played around the world. For example, the United States and Asia has a more tribal house style, whereas Europe has a tech house or house music sound.
In closing, he wanted to say that "I’ve been lucky enough to play at numerous clubs and events around the world and every experience is very different. In some countries electronic music and events are still relatively new, so the events may be smaller or more intimate. But the crowds are still so enthusiastic and the energy is great. I think you just need to approach each gig with an open mind, and playing in different countries has exposed me to different sounds that can influence my set as well."
DJ Dan Slater will be performing at Oz New Orleans this Halloween Friday, October 20, 2017 starting at 12:00 AM. I've listened to some of his music and I must admit I'm quite impressed. Check out his music on SoundCloud.
Two DJ that Mr. Slater recommends that he feels deserve some attention:
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There is no doubt that seniors in the LGBT community are isolated or discriminated. How may times have I heard men at a bar or event say "he's so old", "that man is a creep", "I would never dare be with someone that old", or even worse "he should be dead by now", "He props the bar up." No matter what is said there is this level of disrespect for seniors in the LGBT community. I've heard this 100's of time how this community is suppose to be inclusive, love one another, be there for each other, etc... And as I always say "this community is full of bullshit".
To assume that when someone reaches a certain age their no longer valuable to the community. Maybe the younger generation doesn't care to remember the past. The struggles that many in the senior community had to fight for or sacrifice. We as a community owe it to them to make sure they are taking care of, accepted, and loved. I mean when did you decide to just throw someone away because they have reached a certain age?
I came across an article Address Discrimination in Healthcare Against LGBT Elders from Within the Community, by Robert Vestees. It's an in depth look at the stigmatization LGBT seniors face in healthcare. But it's more than just health care issues that need to be addressed within the community. We have to take a hard look at care-giving issues, financial insecurity, social isolation and access to aging services.
To discard the legacy and history of LGBT seniors would be a disaster to our community. There has to be a proactive move to include senior's in our daily lives. To prove that we are more than the sum of who we are, and that we as a community take care of our own. That regardless of our age we belong, and we have value.
New Orleans is fortunate to have an organization to assist LGBT seniors. For more information contact New Orleans Advocates for LGBT Elders at noagenola.org or call (504) 517-2345.
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Originally a six part series on asexuals and their fight for equal rights and acknowledgment in the LGBT community. The entire series was an intriguing look into a misunderstood segment of society. "Asexuality: The 'X' In a Sexual World" was published in Huffington Post by Dominique Mosbergen in 2013 and updated in 2016. It's a in depth look covering topics such as; What is asexuality? Is asexuality a disorder? along with their battle for LGBT inclusion.
Do we as a culture turn our backs on a segment of society because we might not understand what asexuality is. Because they prefer to noT engage in sexual acts, does that make them less worthy of our compassion or friendship?
What are your thoughts? Should someone who is asexual be included in the LGBT community?
I've often wondered how some drag queens feel about transgender women. This article written by Zack Ford for Think Progress really takes a look at the different world between transgender women and drag queens. For me I believe there is a vast difference. For example transgender women live their lives as women, have made or want to make the transition from male to female (not all transgenders elect to go through with the surgery), as for drag queens this is an art, a way to express themselves, or has become a part of their lives as an alter-ego.
But is there a divide between transgender women and drag queens? Most of the drags queens I know are very accepting, spend a lot of time working hard to break down barriers or stereotypes both inside and outside of the community. Now I will say that I've heard some drag queens bitch, complain and put down a transgender women who want to perform along side of drag queens.
So, is there really a divide between transgender women and drag queens? Or is this simple a myth pushed by a few in the LGBT community? What are you thoughts?