THE SENIOR CORNER - JIM MEADOWS 3/27/2018
According to the Centers for Disease Control, the human papillomavirus (HPV) is so common that most sexually active people are exposed to it at some point in their lives. For the majority of them, being infected with HPV doesn’t cause any long-term problems, but for others it can lead to the growth of cancerous tissue (e.g. cervical cancer in women and anal cancer in men). While there are established protocols for performing cervical cancer screenings, there are no such protocols for anal cancer. Leaders of the nationwide ANCHOR study are seeking to change that.
I recently met with several local healthcare professionals who are helping to implement the study here in New Orleans, including CrescentCare nurse, Jake Rickoll. “We’re starting to see cancers in the HIV geriatric population that are more abundant than in the non-HIV population,” said Rickoll.
“The good news is that these cancers are very treatable, the outcomes of treatment are very good for these cancers but you have to screen for them, and that’s why I think this study is important. Because with proper screening we can find people who could potentially have cancer and treat them before the cancer even comes about, or find the cancer and make sure they’re quickly ushered into treatment.”
Both CrescentCare and LSU Health Sciences Center are seeking local participants for the ANCHOR study. “The easiest thing to do is call and ask for an anal cancer screening.” Call (504)207-2273 to schedule a screening at CrescentCare, or (504)210-3325 to schedule a screening at LSU Health Sciences Center.
What can study participants expect? According to Christiane Geisler, the ANCHOR study’s lead coordinator at CrescentCare, “someone in the study can expect pretty much the same procedures that they would if they were not in the study but just followed by a doctor who does regular endoscopies.” Once approved for participation in the ANCHOR study, all participants will receive $100 in paid compensation each time they come in for an endoscopy.
For more information about HPV, anal cancer, and the ANCHOR study, visit the study’s website at https://anchorstudy.org/.
At the Katy Independent School District school board meeting in Texas Greg Barrett came to talk about bullying. Lance Hindt the school district superintendent was in attendance.
Barrett came to explain that he was targeted as a kid because his name at the time was Grey Gay. “I was bullied,” he said. “Unbelievably bullied. I started out and I had teachers that bullied me, I had kids that bullied me, even the coaches. I had nobody to turn to.”
He then recounts a story about a gang of classmates that assaulted him, shoving his head in a urinal, then they proceeded to kick him while in the fetal position. Barrett continued to talk about how he felt suicidal because of the beating. “Well, I went home and I got the .45 out of my father’s drawer and put it in my mouth. Because at this point I had nobody–nobody in the school system–to help me. Is that the way this is going to be?”
Looking directly at Hindt: “Lance, you were the one that shoved my head in the urinal.” Hindt response was to start laughing.
Hindt's office released a statement completely denying the allegations stating in part that “a bullying incident [that] occurred more than 35 years ago” and accusing Barrett of trying to “impugn my character and reputation.” However, a couple of days later Christopher Dolan came forward that he witnessed the assault and that Hindt was a known bully in both middle and high school. Dolan sated: “I do remember, recall, one incident that happened where Lance Hindt took Greg into a bathroom,” Dolan tells ABC-13. “He was in the bathroom and put his head, into uh, into a urinal." Furthermore, "He was a bully and he let people know that he was in charge. Nobody messed with Lance Hindt, not at West Memorial Junior High and not at Taylor High School.”
Watch the confrontation
Karl Schmid an entertainment reporter for ABC's affiliate station in Los Angeles over the weekend came out as HIV-positive in a Facebook post that has gone viral.
Hi. I’m a 37 year old HIV+ man who has been poz for almost ten years. I work in television. And on the side of the camera where, for better or worse it’s considered “taboo” for people ‘like me’ to be ‘like me’. For 10 years I’ve struggled with ‘do I or don’t I’? For ten years the stigma and industry professionals have said, ‘don’t! It’ll ruin you’.
Schmid decided to ignore the advice and is proud of who he is and doesn't see a reason to feel ashamed or to even hide his status. “I’m me. I’m just like you. I have a big heart and I want to be loved and accepted,” he writes. “So here’s what I say, stand tall, and stand proud. You can’t make everybody happy but you can make you happy.”
He concludes the heartfelt post with a few words of encouragement for other HIV-positive people:
Love me or hate me, that’s up to you. But, for anyone who has ever doubted themselves because of those scary three letters and one symbol, let me tell you this, you are somebody who matters. Your feelings, your thoughts, your emotions count. And don’t let anybody tell you otherwise. I’m Karl Schmid, and I’m an HIV-positive man!
The support has been overwhelming and he appears to be humbled. He wrote on Twitter: “Today has been insanely overwhelming. I had NO idea that me sharing something would have such an impact. For those of you who dm’d with your stories THANK YOU.”
Those who have used Craigslist to meet romantic, platonic, or sexual partner will soon have to find another outlet. Founded in 1995 the site has had online classified ads, however, this will be it's last week - and that includes the "casual encounters" listings and sex-sex ads - "m4m, etc.
While the subsections are still listed under “personals,” the site is now redirecting users to the following message:
US Congress just passed HR 1865, "FOSTA", seeking to subject websites to criminal and civil liability when third parties (users) misuse online personals unlawfully.
Any tool or service can be misused. We can't take such risk without jeopardizing all our other services, so we are regretfully taking craigslist personals offline. Hopefully we can bring them back some day.
To the millions of spouses, partners, and couples who met through craigslist, we wish you every happiness!
The aforementioned bill, H.R.1865, entitled "Allow States and Victims to Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act of 2017” passed the Senate on March 21 and is currently awaiting President Donald Trump’s signature. Commonly referred to as FOSTA, the bill amends section 230 of the Communications Act of 1934 (which prevents platforms like Facebook from being held liable in situations of harassment, hate speech, cyberbullying, etc.), to make websites criminally liable for knowingly hosting, assisting, supporting, or facilitating sex trafficking.
The bill came to life following insights discovered in a Senate investigation report, “Backpage.com’s Knowing Facilitation of Online Sex Trafficking” which found that the website Backpage.com — a similar classifieds site to Craigslist — knowingly allowed advertisements for child prostitution.
The Internet Association called the bill “overly broad” and “counterproductive” in the campaign to fight human trafficking. The bill was sponsored by Rep. Ann Wagner, R-Mo., but is considered to be a bipartisan bill.
Craigslist's personal ads section was never created to facilitate sex trafficking and prostitution, buy somehow it worked it's way onto the Craigslist platform. The company made national headlines when in 2010 it was reveiled that women were being prostituted by pimps on Craigslist.
Critics of the current bill fear that it will put sex workers in more dangerous position. “The problem is that these bills target websites that are widely and inaccurately believed to be hubs of trafficking activity when it is precisely those websites that enable people in the sex trades to do their work safely and independently, at the same time as they make it easier for authorities to find and investigate possible trafficking cases.” stated by Alana Massey in Allure Magazine.
I suppose those that use Craigslist will have to find another outlet; at least for now.
Well, it appears that another math teacher has a gay adult film past, and trust me he should be celebrated. It appears that students at Peacehaven Community School (located in East Sussex) discovered that their math teacher has a past that they were not prepared for. They made the discovery after a Google search using his name, Scott Sherwood.
The 50-years old teacher performed under the name Aaron Cage and his videos can be found on a number of online platforms. The title of one video says it all "Aaron is a Hot British Bear". Who can argue with that?
Also discovered is a YouTude video in which Sherwood openly talked about his time as an adult film star - He stated: “for me, becoming a [Colt Studio] model, it was just a dream come true.”
A student wrote in the comment section: “That guy is my maths teacher his real name is Scott Sherwood. I’m scared”. While a former student wrote: My old maths teacher”. It's understandable that they would be shocked, I mean your math teacher was once a porn star!
Sherwood talked candidly in an interview with Gay Community (using 'Aaron Cage'), he spoke about problems he witnessed in the adult porn industry. He stated “It’s sad to see, some are turning to drugs, some [attempting] suicide. Porn shouldn’t be seen as work. It’s a second job at best. Everyone has a shelf-life. Even me. Trends in porn change." Furthermore, “I would have been big in the ’70s and finished by the ’80s when everyone was waxed within an inch of their life. It happens. I know that one day, they won’t call.”
Sherwood added: I see all these 22-year-olds with stars in their eyes – thinking this is going to be their career, then finding it’s all over and having their next career options curtailed. I was already settled, established. These guys well… well, see the previous question about work drying up.”
The sad truth is that not everyone is accepting of individuals who have worked in the adult industry. The Mirror has
reported that since this has all come to light, Sherwood hasn't returned to the classroom.
Another teacher in Rome was outed to have been an adult film star in October 2017.
Hernandez reportedly opened up to his defense attorney George Leontire and ex-girlfriend Alyssa Anderson about this sexuality in 2013, while in prison.
In a clip from the Oxygen special Aaron Hernandez Uncovered, Anderson talks about her re-connection while Hernandez while in prison. The two dated while at the University of Florida and she reached out to by writing letters. The correspondence eventually touched on Hernandez's troubled childhood and his struggles coming to terms of his sexuality. "The letters became more intense," Anderson says. "He did open up about some of the struggles he had gone through as a kid. He admitted to being molested as a kid, but he never dealt with it. And it lead to issues with his sexuality." Anderson also stated that she spoke to him about the questions of his sexuality, apparently he received romantic text messages from a male, refused to talk about it.
"Back in college, there were text messages I saw on his phone when he came back home from Connecticut," she says. "It was a male, didn't have a name, didn't say too much, but it was a relationship with someone. When I questioned him about it, he always denied it. Then in one of the letters, he opened up about it. He did admit to it."
In his suicide letter (we will not post the letter) there is a passage that some points directly to his sexuality "Please keep this between us," Hernandez wrote, presumably referring to his sexuality. "But it's not a shock, you caught me, [laugh out loud]." Leontire also states that his client 'acknowledged' his sexuality to him. "This man clearly was gay," Leontire says. "[He] acknowledged it. Acknowledged the immense pain that it caused him. ... I think that he also came out of a culture that was so negative about gay people that he exhibited some self-hatred."
Cynthia Nixon has thrown her hat in the run for governor of New York via a campaign video posted on Twitter today. “New York is where I was raised and where I’m raising my kids,” she says in the video, focusing on schooling and wealth inequity. “I was given chances I just don’t see for most of New York’s kids today. Our leadership is letting us down. We are now the most unequal state in the entire country, with both incredible wealth and extreme poverty.” Nixon stated.
It has been rumored for awhile about a gubernatorial run from Nixon, and all but confirmed when she began putting together a campaign staff. Well it's now official, and we just have to see if the former Sex and the City star has what it takes to go the distance.
Jonathan hasn't received a message in weeks.
A 25-year old gay man who lives in New York, he keeps a folder filled with various dating apps on his phone—including Grindr, Scruff, and Tinder. Since moving to Hell’s Kitchen two months ago, he says he can “count on one hand” the number of messages he’s gotten from men in the popular Manhattan gayborhood.
Jonathan, a muscularly built student at NYU decides to engage in a little experiment over coffee in a Harlem café: He changes his profile picture to a male friend’s photo. The friend is cute and clean-cut, but most importantly, he’s white. Jonathan gets 50 messages in less than a half hour.
To be honest he isn't surprised. In fact, he is used to this. “It doesn’t matter what I write in my profile,” Jonathan says. “You’re not going to read it because you’re automatically going to make assumptions about me based on my race.” It was recently that someone sent him a message on Grindr that he can't forget, “You fucking chinks are the reason why there’s so much racism in the gay community,” it read.
Unfortunately, his experience isn't uncommon, especially on dating ("hook-up") sites. In 2014 Christian Rudder, founder of OkCupid told NPR there is a "bias" on almost all platforms against black and Asian users. “Every kind of way you can measure their success on a site—how people rate them, how often they reply to their messages, how many messages they get—that’s all reduced,” he stated.
Researchers in Australia polled about 2,000 gay and bisexual men, and found that 70% percent felt that it was o.k. to exclude someone based on their ethnicity and it wasn't racism, and they also believed that to have 'no Blacks', 'no Asians' was just stating a preference (what a load of crap, in my opinion).
Let's just be real about this, sexual racism has become a contentious one in the gay community, as most gay and bisexual men depend on their phones in ways they once did at local bars; which as you know leaves certain types of people in these online communities out in the cold. As Jonathan explains "it can be difficult to find your place in the community where you're too often shut out by people who believe that exclusion is harmless - or even natural."
Peter an Asian American living in Salt Lake City stated: “It took a toll on my self-esteem, I wondered, why not me? I thought that was the culture,” he said. “But when I talked to my white friends about it, it was if they lived in a completely different world. Their profiles are flooded with hundreds of different messages and filled with conversations with all different kinds of people. My friends of color, though, had the same experience as me: You rarely get a message and rarely does someone respond to yours.”
Peter admits that he doesn't get many messages on any dating platform and that it took him a while to understand why people were not responding to him. "I just get the feeling that I am not wanted because of my heritage and that is Asian." What bothers Peter the most is when people send messages that include words such as 'chink', 'slant eyes', 'bedtime', lemonhead', and 'japanigger'. “I see my friends who are always with new people or going on dates. It makes me feel left out and isolated knowing that it’s not as easy for me to navigate the gay scene. I’ve struggled with not feeling attractive enough because there are such strict beauty standards in the gay community around what’s considered attractive. You have to fit into that box.” he stated.
We have to understand that sexual racism is not exclusive to online spaces, but what makes the discrimination unique is unlike chat rooms, most users believe they have some sort of expectation that what they share is private. Allowing users to express exclusionary preferences around race, but otherwise would not in public. But statements like 'no chocolate', 'no rice', 'whites only' are very prevalent in online dating sites. "It's less common that I experience overt racism when I'm at a bar, but online it's an entirely different situation," says Akio a 28-year old gay man from Seattle. "I can’t log on a dating app without people telling him that they’re “not into Asians guys."
Akio recounts an experience where he was talking to a guy online, when he sent a picture, the man he was talking to replied, I doesn't mess around with Asians. However, it just so happened that he was out with friends and low and behold he spotted the same guy he was just talking to three days prior. I asked a friend to introduce us, and when we walked over this man was all over me, but when I recounted our online conversation, he had nothing to say, except sorry.
If you were walking down the street with other people and yelled discriminatory slag, that would be socially unacceptable. But for some reason when you're alone and not in the presence of others it appears to be o.k. Why? Maybe because you have a physical barrier between yourself and the people you're interacting with? When is it alright to say "it's a preference" and it's not racist? It's racist regardless how you look at it there are no other words to describe this behavior. This applies to all social groups in the LGBT community, we see just as many 'no whites', so let's not fool ourselves to think otherwise.
When I hear people talk about togetherness, we're one community I have to call bullshit. Let's just be real about discrimination in the LGBT community, it happens across the spectrum.
The bottom line is when we use discriminatory language on social app's we invite a complete lack of empathy for those with whom one is engaging.
If you don't know who you're talking (chatting) with and don't have to physically see their reaction to what's being said you don't feel as bad.
What a sad community we still have to deal with open discrimination and racism in the LGBT community.
Israel pole dancer not only wowed the crowd and judges, but he managed to do this wearing nothing but high stiletto heels and black tights. Set to the music of the Goo Goo Dolls, 'Iris'; showing off his amazing pole dancing skills, insane flexibility and, muscle strength. The most impressive is right at 1:45 into the performance with a split on the pole.
The judges appeared to be extremely impressed with his abilities. But it was one of the judged that became really emotional and stated: You just flew there like a bird. You’re like… I saw… a man, a child who is fulfilling his dream and doesn’t give a fuck about what other people are saying and who doesn’t care about what society thinks. And to get to that place where you’re complacent with yourself. Beyond that, you are an artisan. You’re like a swan. You’re so beautiful from the inside and outside and elegant that I don’t see in the most feminine woman and in the most manly man.She then spoke to Gradus’ mother who was in the audience with this sister. “You can today be with the most proud, pounding heart for your son.”
Another judge broke down in tears while trying to praise his performance: “What I most admired and I know how hard it is,” she stammered. “How hard it is when you’re doing what you love and been criticized for it on the most difficult level there is. And how difficult it is to keep doing it despite what people say and this touched me madly and this….” Then she sent Gradus straight to the finals of Israel's Got Talent when she hit the golden buzzer.
WATCH HIS AMAZING PERFORMANCE
If you believe that men can't be raped, well let me say that that your life has been a lie. In our culture every gender is assigned a certain stereotype, and in the LGBT community it's either masculine or feminine and how easy is it to just say men can't be raped. Or if you were rapped to be labeled by a community that is suppose to be there for you?
"Project Unbreakable" a website started in 2011 by Grace Brown, a New York photography student to raise awareness about sexual assault by allowing those who have been victims to use it and tell their story. Survivors hold up posters with quotes from their attackers, and not surprising their are a number of men who volunteered to be a part of the project. Most of the men featured have either been the victims of sexual assault, child abuse, and domestic violence.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), lesbian, gay and bisexual people experience sexual violence at similar or higher rates than heterosexuals. The National Coalition of Anti-Violence Projects (NCAVP) estimates that nearly one in ten LGBTQ survivors of intimate partner violence (IPV) has experienced sexual assault from those partners. Studies suggest that around half of transgender people and bisexual women will experience sexual violence at some point in their lifetime.
HERE'S THEIR VOICE
Images are from the Tumbler page of "Project Unbreakable"