The Guardian has posted a confessional published by an unnamed man who opens up about what sex is like with someone with autism, “a homosexual man in my mid-50s diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome or high-functioning autism.”
Explains in detail what it’s like for him:
“Informal environments such as higher education and work, I come across as reasonably normal, pleasant, chatty if a bit shy and wary, and unusually sympathetic (albeit in a detached way, as if I were a professional counselor). Outside of work, I am introverted, a creature of habit, mistrustful of people, preferring seclusion and personal autonomy. People regard me as remote and eccentric. A comfortable level of social interaction consists of talking for a couple of hours over dinner, a few times a year, within a small circle of trusted friends. I do not bond emotionally with anyone, including immediate family.”
And it’s the “not bonding emotionally with anyone” part that can make sex a little, well, tricky.
He has a heightened fear of disease contagion and admits that even casual contact with people repulsive, and it’s for this reason he avoids any intimate relationships. He does state that he is a person with sexual needs even given his challenges, so does he meet those needs? “In the least risky, least effortful manner,” he writes. “Solitary masturbation, one to three times a day.”
He furthermore has come to look at his situation as a “biological urge” but understands that “The aspiration for love and sex is not universal,” and “Nor is it exclusively people with a low sex drive who choose a solitary life.”
h/t: The Guardian