We all know that stereotypes in the gay community is rampant and pervasive. A 19-year-old masculine bottom says he has problems keeping men’s attention as a black “extremely masc” bottom. He believes that it due to the face that he doesn’t conform to perceptions of what bottoms should look and act like.
“I’m the big black muscle guy that looks like a top,” he writes on Reddit. “I’m 19, but I’m beefy as hell, so most people think I’m in my late 20s. I’m also a complete submissive bitch, but most guys don’t expect that out of me. I’m not opposed to topping, but I only like to top guys that I know will be around for a while (like a FWB or a romantic interest). I’ve been told I’m handsome and all of that, but all guys want is the lightweight twink they can throw around. All of my hookups have called me a big dude in a good way, but it seems like it isn’t the dream. Plus, I’m black so everybody thinks I’m a top as well.”
This author would be glad that he is the dream for some men. “How rare of a species is this?” one wrote in a DataLounge forum thread about masc bottoms. “I think I’ve finally found one, and, damn, am I in heaven.”
“Masculine bottom porn suggestions most welcome,” commented another user.
On another DataLounge thread, someone asked if masculine guys bottoming is “hot or not.” Responses to that post included “very hot” and “the best.”
That addresses the perception that masculine men can’t be desired as bottoms, but what about the bias against black men as bottoms? Unfortunately, the Redditor is far from alone, and the fetishization of certain races is yet again to blame. Take this Thought Catalog essay titled “Dear White Gays: Not All Black Guys Are Tops.”
“I want you to know that when you approach me at the bar or online and you assume I’m a top, or that I’m hung, or that I’m hung and a top, I feel dehumanized,” the author writes. “It feels like you’re reducing me to a thing that can perform a service for you, not like a mutual bond, the way sex should be.
He concludes: “When you’re a black gay guy, bottoming is a political stance. It’s a small way of saying, I don’t want to play the game of upholding dehumanizing stereotypes and images. I don’t want to confirm media and cultural stereotypes about black ‘virile’ masculinity.”
Moral of the story: We should all just appreciate humanity in its all many forms, and, more specifically, men who have sex with men in all their many roles.
Well, who would have guessed, but according to a new report from the RAND Corp. Marines have more sex than any other branch in the United States military. The survey was completed in 2015 for the Health Related Behaviors Survey, included about 17,000 participants and covered all branches of the military.
It was found that Marines are more than likely to “engage in riskier sexual behavior” by having “more than one sex partner of the course of one year.” You could just look at it this way Marines are more sex-positive than soldiers, sailors, and airmen.
Dr. Sarah Meadows who lead the study cautioned people to not cast judgment over the findings. She stated: “We’re not trying to blame anyone for this, but the Marine Corps does tend to stand out,” she says. “Each of the services has their own culture. “ She added, “Marines tend to be young men. Compared to young men on college campuses, it’s pretty similar.”
The study also revealed that Marines are significantly more likely to smoke cigarettes, cigars and e-cigarettes and binge drink.
Outside the biannual international AIDS conference activists took to the street using the ‘U=U’ chant. This is a new rallying cry for people living with HIV that delivers the message that people who are on treatment and undetectable are not capable of transmitting the virus to their sexual partners, was front and center throughout much of the march as it wound its way through the narrow streets and canals of Amsterdam.
Gay men, women, sex workers from around the world appeared united in educating the world what it means to be undetectable and getting governmental agencies and health officials to sign onto the message, which comes as a major breakthrough.
There is no doubt that these activists are willing and capable to speak for themselves, a video taken by Mark S. King show them marching and chanting with passion.
A new article published by the Advocate has reported that fashion photographer Rick Day has been accused of sexually assaulting to models. The exclusive interviews models Barrett Pall and Kai Braden have both claimed they were sexually assaulted by Day, whose work can be found in GQ, Elle and Vogue Italia. At the time of the assault, both men were teenagers.
Pall reported that Day reached out to him in 2007 through the online platform Model Mayhem and stated that Day was interested in shooting him for a coffee-table book. In the message, which The Advocate obtained a screenshot of, Day assured Pall he was “not looking for a hookup … but I find you very cute and would love to shoot a hot sexy shot of you.”
The Advocate reports:
Day got on his knees, pulled out Pall’s semi-erect penis from his underwear and began masturbating him. Pall says he was stunned and frozen but felt pressure to pretend he “was OK with it” in order to get through and obtain the photos. Pall tells The Advocate he was a virgin and this act was the first time he’d done anything sexual with a man — an experience he says was “robbed” from him. Day allegedly told Day to ejaculate on his face, and when he was finished, he offered Pall a shower to clean off. The shoot, which Pall says seemed to go on forever, was finally over.
Branden account is very similar and claims his assault occurred in 2006 when he was 18. Like Pall, he arrived at the shoot to learn it was just the two of them. There were no other assistants, make-up artists, or anyone else around. In the middle of a shoot, Pall alleges Day pinned him to a wall with his “hand around my neck” and his “mouth to ear” and whispered, “it was OK, that I should just relax.”
The Advocate reports:
“I remember he asked if I had ever had sex with a guy before, and I told him I had never had sex period,” the model says. Day, whose fingers were on Braden’s anus, “seemed to ease off when I told him that.” Braden claims he was pinned to the wall for at least two minutes until he eventually pushed the photographer off. “He seemed to have gotten the picture, and we wrapped up the shoot,” Braden says. “I tried to get out of there as quick as I can and keep my cool.”
Afterwards Braden told his agents what had happened. He says they replied by saying, “Yeah, we know,… Rick is like that with guy [models], but he takes great pictures.”
“A photographer should have never felt comfortable enough to come up to me in the first place and repeatedly put his hands on my body without my permission, let alone sexually violate me,” Braden says.
Day declined multiple times to comment on the story.
h/t: The Advocate
The 19-year-old teenager Fredy Alanis who was injured after sucking a 10-inch did has given his first radio interview this past Saturday on The Adam Sank Show. Alanis revealed that the man is both long and thick, and he has gone back for seconds after he recovered. He also explains that the medical term for the trauma caused by the sucking is “Pneumomediastinum.” It’s very serious, and he could have died.
However, we are really curious about this sudden viral fame and what has happened since the article went viral. The teenager explained that his parents are not happy and because he was partially misquoted in the initial article. “It’s really impacted my personal life as far as it comes to family life, because my parents are super upset about it,” Alanis explains. “They are still upset about the article,” he says.
He furthermore stated: “It’s because when, in the article, they quoted my calling myself a whore. They asked if my family knew I was gay and I said, ‘Yes, but they don’t know I’m a whore,’ is what the article said but that’s not my words. What I said was, ‘Yeah, they know but I didn’t tell them about the situation because I didn’t want them to think that I’m a whore, you know?’ I don’t want them to think that I was going around whoring around.’ They completely twisted my words.”
Alanis understand that his “I think [my mom] will always be upset about the article, but it just kind of something that is out there now and there’s nothing you can really do about it now.”
What bothers him as well is that his sister has started receiving threats from internet trolls, telling her that she should tell her brother to go kill himself. “One of the things that has upset me the most, my sister has been getting so much backlash for this,” Alanis says. “She has people texting her and messaging her, saying, telling her to tell me to kill myself.”
You can listen to Fredy Alanis interview on the Adam Sank Show:
Well, it appears that Americans are having sex at work, a lot it seem. OK, not that much, but more than we thought.
According to a new study, 14% of Americans have has sex at the office, according to a new study conducted by EdenFantasys. 2000 women and men participated in the study. And some did admit to being caught, 1 in 5 was caught in the act.
Here are some more tantalizing facts; 10% said they had sex with the boss, 33% of that 10% did it for a promotion, 17% said their plans didn’t work out, and 1 in 5 lost their jobs.
“For many, work is a very stressful environment and sex can be a great stress relief,” Fred Petrenko at EdenFantasys says. “We recommend spicing things up with a good sex toy instead.”
The Guardian has posted a confessional published by an unnamed man who opens up about what sex is like with someone with autism, “a homosexual man in my mid-50s diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome or high-functioning autism.”
Explains in detail what it’s like for him:
“Informal environments such as higher education and work, I come across as reasonably normal, pleasant, chatty if a bit shy and wary, and unusually sympathetic (albeit in a detached way, as if I were a professional counselor). Outside of work, I am introverted, a creature of habit, mistrustful of people, preferring seclusion and personal autonomy. People regard me as remote and eccentric. A comfortable level of social interaction consists of talking for a couple of hours over dinner, a few times a year, within a small circle of trusted friends. I do not bond emotionally with anyone, including immediate family.”
And it’s the “not bonding emotionally with anyone” part that can make sex a little, well, tricky.
He has a heightened fear of disease contagion and admits that even casual contact with people repulsive, and it’s for this reason he avoids any intimate relationships. He does state that he is a person with sexual needs even given his challenges, so does he meet those needs? “In the least risky, least effortful manner,” he writes. “Solitary masturbation, one to three times a day.”
He furthermore has come to look at his situation as a “biological urge” but understands that “The aspiration for love and sex is not universal,” and “Nor is it exclusively people with a low sex drive who choose a solitary life.”
h/t: The Guardian
If you are a bottom expect to pay more than tops, well at least at a New York gay sex club. It appears organizers will be charging $65 entry for a bottom and just $25 for tops.
Bottoms are not too pleased about having to pay 50%. Many are questioning the disparity in the admission price and just how it will be enforced. Then there is the question of those guys that are versatile.
A promoter for the event tells Gay Star News the pricing was needed for “a huge ratio of tops to bottoms.” Furthermore, he explains “The way the party works is that bottoms volunteer as a cumdump, they are placed into position for the entirety of the party and stay there as long as they want,” and we wanted to keep the party more manageable for obvious safety reasons. So we used a smaller and therefore more expensive (per capita) space.”
However, many are expressing concern of “top privilege”, which has become a concern in the gay community. But the promoter is defending the gap by stating: “That’s also part of what the bottoms are paying more for,” he says, “a guaranteed high number of tops.”
If you’ve ever had gay sex or watched gay sex you’ll know there are countless possible positions. But where to start? How do you have sex ‘properly’? What feels best? So we’ve put together a guide of sexual position that might be most pleasurable – But before we start and you run to stick it in we recommend always participating in safe sex and if condoms aren’t your thing then think of using PreP as means to reduce your exposure to HIV (just remember that PreP will not protect you from other STI’s).
Let’s get started. What works for you and your partner/s depends on your shape and size, and we’re not talking about cocks. For example, if you’re tall and the guy your with is shorter you should be able to fuck in various positions that a pair of beefy guys would find uncomfortable. Regardless at the end of the day, it comes down to angles, different levels of flexibility and being able to hold or change positions.
Who said physics is boring?
Anal sex positions
Most of these gay sex positions are anal sex positions, but there are some non-penetrative sexual positions at the end too.
If you’re after more anal sex reading, here’s another general guide on how to have anal sex that covers douching, communication, lube and some other stuff.
Top, bottom or versatile?
We’re going to look at sex positions from the point of view of a top and a bottom. If you’re versatile (and we encourage you all to be), lucky you, you can do both. In some gay sex positions the top leads the action, and in some the bottom takes the lead. So pay attention or you might miss your turn. Interested in finding out why some guys are top and some are bottom? Here’s a scientific study from 2017 that talks about it.
Try the gay missionary position first
This gay sex position may sound boring, but it’s not, we promise. It’s one of the easiest positions for a top, and not especially difficult for a bottom.
Before that, though… the foreplay
If you’re engaging in foreplay and sucking his cock while he’s laying down, keep licking, kissing and sucking as you move your mouth down towards his balls. Then go further, toward his perineum (the bit between his balls and his ass) and then his butthole.
Bottom: if you’re enjoying this, give him a few moans and wriggle your asshole a bit closer to where his tongue is. If he’s keen, keep eating his ass. Open his ass cheeks and get in there deep with your tongue. If you can, and body shapes and sizes depend on this, lift his ass up a bit.
Grab a pillow and spit
A pillow under the bottom’s butt can help to raise his asshole up for easier access and comfort for both parties. Start rubbing your cock against his hole. Spit on your cock. Use lube, and condoms if you’re going ahead with penetrative sex.
Seeing eye to eye
The gay missionary position is good for maintaining eye contact and clear communication during anal sex. You can penetrate your partner slowly and carefully, keeping an eye on the target. You can build up a momentum that you’re both comfortable with. And it’s easy to get back in if you slip out, because you can see everything clearly.
Legs in the air
Once you’re both comfortable, try holding his legs back if you’re Top. Or putting them over your shoulders if you want to get really deep.
Bottom: you could also hold your legs back yourself, behind the knees or by your feet if you’re flexible enough!
Now try riding a guy’s cock
If you’re new to getting f**ked, or nervous about taking a big dick, this gay sex position could be good for you, because as a bottom, you’ll have the control. It’s a good one for gaining confidence when it comes to taking cock – if it starts to hurt, you can slow down, and lower yourself onto him at your own pace.
You need a certain amount of athleticism to be able to ride your man. You want to be going up and down, and slightly back and forth, at the same time. A bit like riding a horse.
If you’re bigger built than your top, or if you’re a bigger guy in general this one can be tricky as gravity is against you. Be careful not to crush the guy under you or he’ll be at risk of losing his erection.
If you’re both standing up – and you may well be if you’re f**king in a sauna, sex club, dance floor, kitchen, etc, bending over for a top, or bending someone over, can be a winner. Whether this is comfortable or not for the bottom will depend on, you guessed it – angles.
Men’s rectums are all different, so your height difference, cock shape and size, and the angle that you’re f**king him in, will all play a part in how successful (pleasurable) this gem of a position will be.
Top: start slow and give him time to get comfortable.
Bottom: telling him you’re going to back onto his cock and thus leading the action / setting the pace can help. Adjust your stance by sticking your ass up and out more, until you find the most comfortable position.
Tops: this is a good one if you and your partner like to f**k hard. Hold onto his waist and draw your whole body into him. Or hold onto his shoulders with him bent right over backwards if he enjoys a more upwards thrust.
This one is trickier than it looks because you’ll need to position your ass in a way that makes it easy for your top to penetrate you.
It’s either going to work or it’s not. If you’re top, get behind your man, who should be in front of you on all fours. If your cock lines up nicely with his asshole, you’re winning. If the angles require some gymnastics or penetration at an awkward angle, it could be painful for you both. Give it a go by all means, but it’s probably worth trying something else.
Bottoms: also note, your knees can get sore, and you can’t see your partner’s face clearly, so it’s harder to see if you’re both enjoying it.
On the side
One of the best, and not just because you can carry on watching Netflix. Bottoms – lay on your side with your ass turned out. It might help to open your ass cheeks up so your top can find your sweet spot.
Top: once you’re in, carefully lay down next to your partner and put your arms around him.
This can be a really intimate position, as you can hold him tight, kissing his neck and face. There’s also the potential to pump away pretty hard. It’s all in the hips!
That’s the basics of anal covered
Of course, there are a ton more complicated positions like the greasy vine sparkler and the unicorn (or something), but do the four we’ve covered well and you’ll be cumming back to them again and again.
Not such a fan of anal? Don’t stress!
Try the best oral sex position for you and your partner… the 69.
Getting into a good 69 position can be tricky, and there are different ways to do it. If you’re a similar height, lay side by side, ‘top to tail,’ so your faces are in each other’s crotch. Different heights? The taller guy can curve into a V shape so that your bits are in the right places. If you’re a bit more athletic, another way to do this involves your partner laying down, face up. Get into a push-up style position, with your mouths and cocks lined up. In this position, you can f**k his mouth from above.
That’s it! Always remember to try something new, in different places and always play safe.
The Archives of Sexual Behavior has completed a new study that shows when it comes to gay sex, straight men just can't get enough. Over 24,000 undergraduate students were asked about any or their same-sex experiences. About 1 in 8.5 straight men admitted to having sex with other men, however, don't consider themselves gay or bi.
According to co-author Airelle Kuprberg: “There was a big disconnect between what people said their sexual orientation was and what their actions were.” Kuprberg has written extensively on the subject in the past, she further stated that there is two reasons why straight men hookup with another guy; experimentation and performance. The study found that men in their early 20's are about experimenting and trying new things, and for modern undergrads that means between the sheets as well.
Metro reported that when it comes to performance, they engage in so-called "performative bisexuality" and happen when one enjoys sexual contact. It might be due to the fact what it garners and the arousal that it provokes in others. It becomes more about the reaction than the actual act, which might explain why people who experiment with performative bisexuality don't as a rule consider themselves gay or bi.
Once again another study that shows that straight me are having more gay sex than people thought and that why most think in terms of sexuality fluid.