Religion is often seen and portrayed as the antithesis of LGBTQ identity. While Christianity is often at the forefront of these debates, the new short film Black Hat follows a deeply closeted Hasidic Jew. The film beautifully captures Shmuel's struggle between his devout faith and queer identity.
For him, as for many with the same struggle, he can't choose between religion or queerness because they’re equally engrained into his identity. So, Shmuel (Adam Silver) leads a double life — praying at the synagogue and managing a dry-cleaning business by day, and then traversing gay bars by night — at least while his wife and children are out of town. However, Shmuel's two lives unconsciously bleed together when he leaves his hat at a gay bar.
The filmmakers note that rarely is the connection between LGBTQ+ identities and ultra-Orthodox communities discussed or depicted on screen. While the 2018 film Disobedience gave many a first look into the intersectionality of queer and Jewish identities, Black Hat hopes to continue the conversation. Writer, co-producer, and gay Jewish man Phillip Guttmann explained some of the challenges ultra-Orthodox Jews face.
“Out of the view of the public, there are a pocket of ultra-Orthodox Jews dealing with real issues, like substance addiction, untreated mental health, living in the closet — issues that everyone around the world faces — but in these religious insular communities, talking about such issues publicly is forbidden.”
Guttman hopes Black Hat can help start those conversations around the intersectionality of Judaism and queer identities, raising awareness of the often-forgotten community.
Black Hat premieres at the Tribeca Film Festival next week. Check out the trailer below and learn more at BlackHatMovie.net.
Written by: Lumiere Rostick. 17 April, 2019. Art & Entertainment. Advocate.com
Former GOP Congressman Aaron Schock appears to have had a magical weekend, flocking to the desert with upwards of 100,000 other attendees for the Coachella Valley Music and Arts Festival, known simply by its Cher or Madonna-esque first name, Coachella.
According to multiple eyewitnesses, Schock spent the festival with his gay friends, dancing his heart out. Fun! He also reportedly got intimate with a guy or two, finding those precious carefree lip-locks every queer person dreams of having out in public.
There’s just one problem: While serving as the United States Representative for Illinois’ 18th congressional district from 2009 until 2015, Schock’s voting record read like the CliffsNotes of the Religious Right’s antigay playbook. Among his political positions, he voted against adding ‘sexual orientation, gender identity, gender and disability’ to the federal hate crime protection groups, against the repeal of ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,’ and for the Defense of Marriage Act, which defined marriage as between a man and a woman.
His politics at one time earned him a 0 percent approval rating from the Human Rights Campaign for his opposition to LGBTQ equality.
Schock’s sexuality and all-but-likely hypocrisy have long been sources of speculation, and those who alleged to have seen him living his circuit queen fantasy at Coachella are crying foul.
First among them was West Hollywood political activist (and sometimes Queerty writer) James Duke Mason, who shared photos that appear to show Schock with his friends, along with the following commentary:
Normally I wouldn’t comment on something like this, but I am just infuriated by these images of former Republican (and anti-gay) Congressman Aaron Schock partying with a group of gay men at Coachella.
The fact that he would think he could show his face in public, particularly when he has NEVER renounced or apologized for his votes against gay marriage, gays in the military and against anti-discrimination laws is astounding. My intention isn’t to out him or target him personally, but simply to point out the hypocrisy. I saw him at a recent gay social event in West Hollywood and shook his hand before I realized who he was; he should really be ashamed of himself. And the gays who associate with him without calling him out should know better. It really is a disgrace.
Here’s the full post, with photos:
Schock is allegedly second from the left in the photo on the left and front and center in the one of the right. After Mason’s post picked up steam, multiple people came forward confirming the story, adding further details.
Ryan Bernard wrote:
To the claim of “making out with guys,” a source shared an additional photo, claiming it shows Schock doing just that, with his hand down the man’s pants:
The daytime group shot appears to have originated from the Instagram account of Rob Masi, whose profile says he’s a 26-year-old San Francisco resident.
Among those who “liked” Masi’s photo is the official Instagram account of Aaron Schock:
While it is not up to us to out public figures, we make one serious exception when someone has actively hurt LGBTQ people or causes and refused to own up to it. If the photos and accounts are accurate, Schock is out enjoying freedoms won through the sweat and blood of a community he directly harmed at every step of his political career. We would be thrilled to learn that he has changed his opinions about his community and renounced his past, but there is not yet any evidence he has done so.
“I think Aaron has a lot of explaining to do,” said Itay Had, senior writer at the Hollywood site The Wrap who has run into Schock at least twice at the predominantly gay gym Barry’s Bootcamp in West Hollywood. “While we are all sympathetic to the struggle to come out of the closet, for years Schock was one of the most homophobic members of the right-wing in Congress, actively working against the community he is now joining. I think he owes the LGBTQ community an apology before we embrace him as a private citizen.”
We have reached out to Schock on Instagram to ask whether he’s officially come out and if he regrets any of his anti-LGBTQ voting record and as of press time had not heard back.
This post will be updated should the former Congressman decide to reply.
Written by: Dan Tracer. 16 April, 2019. Shocker. Queerty.com
It’s a warm Friday night and the line at the ILWU Memorial Hall in Wilmington, California, wraps around the block. The crowd is diverse — men and women, young and old, all different walks of life — and once inside the venue, the buzz is palpable.
Vendors sling cheap beer and tacos as quickly as possible, merchandise sales fly fast at makeshift stands and spectators settle into their folding chairs for a night of independent professional wrestling.
But this night is noteworthy for a reason that goes far beyond the action in the ring. Because on this night, in front of a sold-out crowd some 20 miles south of downtown Los Angeles, everybody is here to see a champion who just happens to be gay.
Jake Atlas won the PCW ULTRALight title in January 2019, a milestone in the meteoric rise of one of the most talented and buzzworthy performers in the sport. PCW (Pacific Coast Wrestling) is one of the most popular companies on the exploding indie wrestling scene. For Atlas, an openly gay man, the impact and importance of his title reign is something he cherishes.
“I have so much pride in a variety of aspects in being the PCW ULTRALight champion,” he says. “I worked so hard for two years to have management believe that I can be a part of their roster, that I can be someone they can rely on to deliver in front of capacity crowds.
“I was the first one in the building and the last one to leave for two years. I did everything from setting up the locker room, holding the cables for the cameramen, running entrance gear for the talent and leading a group of young wrestlers to set up the entire arena on show days.
“To have management believe in my story and background, allowing me to showcase my pride with the lifestyle I live, has been an incredible sense of relief. I am one of the leading faces of PCW Ultra, along with some of the greatest talent in the world. I am also gay. I am proud of that.”
Mike Scharnagl, owner of PCW, never gave it a second thought. “There was never any issue with having an openly LGBTQ wrestler with one of our belts,” he says. “The great thing about wrestling is that the audience is a great cross-section of Los Angeles … when they all get in the building, they are all just fans, blowing off steam from a hard week of work.”
Atlas represents the new breed of LGBTQ talent in the professional wrestling world, a community that has flourished in recent years thanks to promotions like PCW and performers like himself.
It hasn’t always been this way.
In 2013, Darren Young became the first openly gay wrestler in WWE. Young, who had contemplated how to handle his sexuality for years, spontaneously came out to a TMZ cameraman when asked about whether or not the wrestling world was ready for a gay performer.
His fear and uncertainty came from decades as a wrestling fan.
“In the ‘70’s, ‘80’s or even ‘90’s, it was not a safe space for gays,” he says.
After coming out, Young was thrown into a fire that nobody saw coming. Despite an almost exclusively warm welcome from the backstage contingent and a seemingly positive reaction from his boss, those in places of power and influence below the surface were less enthused. The flame burned out quickly.
He draws a straight line between his coming out and his eventual demise with the company. “I sacrificed my WWE career and living my childhood dream to live my life truthfully,” he said.
Young was released from WWE in 2017.
Despite its troubled history, the professional wrestling landscape is diversifying and expanding as quickly as its talent base.
The recently founded and much buzzed about All Elite Wrestling, featuring the likes of the legendary Chris Jericho, signed Sonny Kiss, an openly gay wrestler, and Nyla Rose, the first-ever transgender competitor signed to a major promotion. A Matter of Pride, a promotion that features exclusively LGBTQ wrestlers and allies, is flourishing in New York. Just years ago, the mere thought of developments like this would have been unfathomable.
Anthony Bowens, an openly gay wrestler who has most recently competed for IMPACT Wrestling and WrestlePro, says attitudes have shifted in the six years he has been wrestling professionally.
“I have seen things change and it’s for the better,” he says. “I can’t speak for everyone, but the locker rooms I’ve been a part of have been incredibly supportive and, because of that, all the original worries of acceptance that I had before coming out are not even a thought anymore.”
Mike Parrow, a gay wrestler who prides himself on busting stereotypes with his 6-foot-4 and nearly 300-pound frame, struggled to see himself using his sexuality as a source of power when he started his career. “It was part of the reason I stayed in the closet,” he says. “I thought I would lose all of my bookings.”
Now, Parrow is a torch-bearer for the sport, bringing his message of positivity to shows all around the world.
As attitudes evolve, it is important for LGBTQ talent to not only be accepted, but to be legitimized. In these independent promotions, diversity is paramount, but quality is king.
“A common misconception is that we are expected to be awarded titles, championships and recognition because we are gay,” Atlas says. “I can definitely and confidently say that that is not the general message. The message is that we don’t want our potential to be hidden and/or disregarded because of our sexuality.”
For the new crop of LGBTQ talent, it’s all about what comes next. Wrestlers like Atlas and Bowens will be quick to tell you that WWE is still the goal. To the company’s credit, they have shown signs of growth recently.
Sonya Deville, who came out as a lesbian before her WWE debut, is one of their fastest-rising female stars. At last year’s WrestleMania, Finn Balor, one of the most popular names in the entire company and a straight man, made his entrance decked out in rainbow gear surrounded by the LGBTQ community of New Orleans. Balor had his custom rainbow shirt sold on WWE.com, with a portion of proceeds benefiting GLAAD.
Atlas, who spent time training at the WWE Performance Center late last year, has big dreams for the grand stage.
“The biggest challenge we face is being able to be presented openly and without fear to the mainstream audience,” he says. “I hope to be at the forefront of this progress as I begin to build some more steam in my professional career to get more eyes and attention on our talents.”
But on this night in Wilmington, the only audience that matters is the one in front of him. Not only does the raucous crowd accept him, they embrace him. As chants of “Whose house? Jake’s house!” rain down, he uses finishing move the LGB-DDT to retain his title. It’s just another step toward a revolution.
“I want us to get to a point where becoming a gay champion isn’t a headline, it becomes the norm,” he says. “So, any other LGBTQ kid that comes after us can see that nothing is holding them back from following their dreams.”
Written by: Daniel Trainor. 15 April, 2019. Wrestling. Outsports.com
Donald Trump’s ban on transgender military service people takes effect from today, jeopardizing the livelihood of thousands.
Almost two years after Trump first announced his much-maligned policy on Twitter, legislation banning trans people from openly serving in the military has been enacted.
According to the Palm Center, about 13,700 people will lose their jobs as a result.
“The military is the largest employer in the nation and, as the USTS found, transgender people are twice as likely to have served in the Armed Forces as the general population,” Gillian Bransetter, media relations manager for the National Center for Transgender Equality, told Advocate.
The 2015 US Trans Survey (USTS) found that 18 per cent of all trans people have served in the military, which is thought to be the single largest employer of trans people today.
When does the transgender military ban begin?Trump first announced the ban in a series of tweets on July 26, 2017.
“After consultation with my generals and military experts, please be advised that the United States government will not accept or allow transgender individuals to serve in any capacity in the US military,” he wrote.
“Our military must be focused on decisive and overwhelming victory and cannot be burdened with the tremendous medical costs and disruption that transgender in the military would entail.”
The White House formally announced the policy in March 2018, which was blocked by a series of four injunctions.
In January 2019, the first injunction was lifted by an appeals court in Washington DC, with the Supreme Court removing a further two (from California and Washington state) in the same month.
On March 27 the final hurdle was lifted, paving the way for the ban to be enforced from Friday (April 12).
Who will be affected by the transgender military ban?Since trans people were first allowed to enter service in 2016, almost 15,000 are estimated to have joined the military.
Any person who comes out or is outed as trans from April 12 will be discharged, unless they are willing to suppress their identity. The military will not pay for any gender confirmation surgeries, apart from those which will “protect the health” of people who have begun to medically transition.
After April 12, those applying to join the services with a record of gender dysphoria will have to adhere to the gender they were assigned at birth in order to serve. A doctor will have to certify that they have been stable in that gender for at least 36 months, and that they have not medically transitioned.
Transgender people without a diagnosis will be permitted to serve in the gender they were assigned at birth, but only if they have not had any confirmation surgeries.
There are exemptions for active service members who have been diagnosed with gender dysphoria, including those who have already completed a medical transition before the policy takes effect.
According to the Palm Center, just 937 people will qualify for the grandfather exemptions, which they note could be revoked at any time.
The Navy has released guidance noting that sailors will be permitted to live “in their preferred gender” while off-duty.
“Appropriate civilian attire, as outlined in the uniform regulations, will not be determined based on gender,” a statement read, though this may be limited “to meet local conditions and host-nation agreements with foreign countries.”
Criticism of the transgender military banThe Palm Center’s director Aaron Belkin is one of many who has called the ban “a return to don’t ask, don’t tell,” the military’s pre-2011 ban on LGB people.
“Fully 100% of transgender troops are threatened and stigmatised by this ban,” Belkin said a statement on April 9.
In Washington, criticism of the policy has come from both sides of the aisle.
Conservative pundit Meghan McCain tweeted on Wednesday (April 10): “It is indefensible that Trump’s ban on Transgender troops is being implemented on Friday.
“This discriminatory policy will lead Transgender service members, patriots who have decided to serve their nation, to live in the shadows.
“It’s an unfair, un-American, and dangerous policy.”
House speaker Nancy Pelosi is one of many Democrats to rebuke the ban, labelling it an “act of cruelty” on April 3.
Trump’s claims that transgender people “burden” the military “with the tremendous medical costs” has also been wide refuted.
In 2016 the RAND corporation estimated that these costs would amount to somewhere between $2.4 million (£1.8 million) and $8.4 million (£6.4 million) annually.
Written by: Reiss Smith. 12 April 2019. Current Affairs. Pinknews.co.uk
Secretary of Education Betsy DeVos said that she was aware of research showing how harmful her anti-transgender guidance two years ago was.
DeVos appeared before the civil rights subcommittee of the House Education Committee.
The subcommittee chair, Representative Suzanne Bonamici (D-OR) asked DeVos if she knew that “the stress of harassment and discrimination can lead to lower attendance and grades as well as depression and anxiety for transgender students” when she reversed Obama-era guidelines that told schools that discrimination against transgender students is illegal under Title IX.
At first, DeVos dodged the question with a vague statement that the Office of Civil Rights “is committed to ensuring all students have equal access to education free from discrimination.”
Bonamici pressed DeVos: “Sorry, I would really like answer.”
“Did you know, when you rolled back the guidance, that the stress of harassment and discrimination can lead to lower attendance and grades as well as depression for transgender students?” Bonamici asked.
“I do know that,” DeVos said.
“But I will say again that OCR is committed to ensuring all students have access to their education free from discrimination,” she added, even though she rescinded the guidance that said that anti-transgender discrimination is illegal at the federal level.
Bonamici also asked DeVos if she was aware of “alarming levels of attempted suicide among transgender youth.”
“I am aware of that data,” she responded.
“I’m troubled by Sec. DeVos’ answers to my questions during today’s hearing,” Bonamici said in a statement she issued later.
“The Department of Education has a responsibility to protect all students, but she acknowledged that she moved forward with a plan to rollback protections for transgender students despite knowing that it would put them at risk.”
Written by: Alex Bollinger. 11 April 2019. Top Categories. Lgbtqnation.com
Transgender children in the Netherlands are now able to change their gender on passports before the age of 16, while trans adults can self-identify without a doctor’s statement.
Children seeking to have their gender legally recognized will be able to do so by requesting a court date.
Sander Dekker, the Dutch minister for legal protection, said on Thursday (April 11) that judges will grant such requests only in “extreme circumstances.”
Responding to criticism that children may “change their minds” and revert back to the gender they were assigned at birth, he confirmed that any child who legally transitions will be given only one opportunity to reverse course without a court date.
Netherlands streamlines legal gender change
The path to legal recognition has also been made easier for people aged 16 and above, who can now change their gender marker without a statement from a doctor or psychologist.
Under the new process individuals will be given four weeks to cancel a change in legal gender before it becomes permanent.
LGBT+ groups said that they were “pleased with the abolition of the expert statement,” but argued that the new measures are not far-reaching enough.
Transgender Network Netherlands, COC and NNID released a joint statement which read: “This proposal does not provide any relief to intersex people and violates the right to self-determination of transgender children.”
Intersex and non-binary people in the Netherlands can apply for the gender marker X, but must do so through the courts without any guarantees. Dekker indicated that this process may also be made simpler.
Which countries issue gender-neutral passports?Leonne Zeegers became the first Dutch person to receive a gender-neutral passport in October 2018, following a two-year legal battle.
Australia, Denmark, Germany, New Zealand and Pakistan, India, Ireland and Nepal have also introduced (or are introducing) a gender-neutral passport, alongside a handful of US states.
In June 2018 Christie Elan-Cane lost a high court challenge which called on the British government to adopt an X marker.
Written by: Reiss Smith. 11 April 2019. Current Affairs. Pinknews.co.uk
The term “death grip” should never be associated with a penis, but according to our always trustworthy friend the internet, that’s the term for when you choke the chicken so often that it’s actually difficult to ejaculate. “Penis Death Grip Syndrome” also has its very own Urban Dictionary entry:
A condition in which frequent masturbation by hand desensitizes the nerves in the cock, thus lessening the pleasure of jerking off. The best cure for Death Grip Syndrome is a fleshlight! (by The Jizz Wiz March 13, 2010)
That’s the problem with Death Grip Syndrome — it’s one of those internet ideas that have yet to be proven with any scientific backing, but people still take it seriously. Just check out the website CureDeathGrip.com.
The website tells you what to do, how to seek help and even which Fleshlight is best for you, though it does provide a short disclaimer:
“Death Grip Syndrome” is not a recognized medical condition and the ideas presented here are not meant to be and do not constitute medical advice. It is only based on personal experience. Results may vary. Problems enjoying sexual pleasure may have many causes. Especially if you are experiencing difficulty maintaining an erection in addition to trouble reaching an orgasm, be sure to consider any health, stress, or relationship factors that may be affecting you. Even slightly elevated blood pressure can have substantial effects on your sexual performance and health. Seek medical help from your doctor.
While Death Grip Syndrome may not be a real medical syndrome (CureDeathGrip.com is little more than a site for selling jerk-off toys), penile desensitization can affect males between the ages of 13 and 23.
In 2003, sex advice columnist Dan Savage even gave advice to a teenager to vary his self-pleasuring style in order to maintain his sensitivity.
Even without Death Grip Syndrome, there’s a number of reasons someone might have difficulty ejaculating, according to Dr. Richard Santucci, Chief of Urology at Detroit Receiving’s Center for Urologic Reconstruction. He told VICE that men suffering from delayed ejaculation should possibly consider “diabetes, medications, low testosterone, anxiety, all that other stuff.”
If you’re a perfectly healthy, able-bodied man with none of the problems listed above, then, according to Savage, “maybe that’s just the way your dick works.”
Did you know about Penis Death Grip Syndrome? What do you do to change things up while getting it on with yourself?
Written by: Terri Washington. 05 April 2019. Original Publication: 15 August 2013. Health. Hornet.com
Musician Taylor Swift has made a big donation to an LGBTQ organization in the state where she lives to fight what she called a “slate of hate.”
Swift cut a check for $113,000 to the Tennessee Equality Project to fight several anti-LGBTQ bills that have been introduced in the state, including a bill that would allow adoption agencies to refuse LGBTQ parents, a bill that would ban transgender people from using the correct locker room, and a bill that bans marriage equality in an attempt to get the Supreme Court to overturn Obergefell v. Hodges.
“I’m so inspired by the work you do, specifically in organizing the recent petition of Tennessee faith leaders standing up against the ‘Slate of Hate’ in our state legislature,” Swift wrote in a letter, referring to over 100 religious leaders who signed a statement opposing the bills.
“I’m so grateful that [the faith leaders are] giving all people a place to worship.”
The executive director of the Tennessee Equality Project, Chris Sanders, said the group was “honored and grateful” for the donation.
“She sees our struggle in Tennessee and continues to add her voice with so many good people, including religious leaders, who are speaking out for love in the face of fear,” he said in a statement.
“Taylor Swift has been a long-time ally to the LGBTQ community.”
Written by: Alex Bollinger. 09 April 2019. USA. Lgbtqnation.com
For many years, Ernest Montgomery has photographed men of the Dominican Republic. His first photo book, Dominicans, is a best seller. In 2017 he followed with a second volume of his most erotic works: Hermoso.
The title of the book alludes to what awaits us inside: the most beautiful men of the Dominican Republic, photographed by an outstanding artist.
“Hermoso” is a Spanish work meaning handsome, beautiful. It is an aesthetic one embodies and possess naturally. For Dominican men, it is an innate part of their DNA. In this new project, Hermoso, Ernest Montgomery captures Dominican men in intimate and seductive scenes throughout Santo Domingo, Bonao, Barahona, as Terrrenas, Moca, Haina, San Cristobal, and San Juan de Maguana. – From the Forward of Hermoso by Terrence Dean.
Written by: Christopher Harrity. 08 April 2019. Books. Advocate.com
Images: Ernest Montgomery. Hermoso
If you asked men whether they’d love to have a huge penis, most would immediately say yes. Some men even go to absurd lengths to give themselves one. But is being well-hung really worth it? What about “huge penis problems”?
According to the Redditors on the subreddits r/askgaybros and r/bigdickproblems, many would be happy to lose a few inches, either in length or girth.
Here are 5 complaints showing when it comes to a huge penis, the grass isn’t always greener:
1. Sexual harassment is a real issue.
One of the most commonly reported huge penis problems is that since it can be hard to hide a large bulge, there’s constant commentary — and when the owner of that big bulge objects, they’re sometimes mocked. Redditor u/HallowedTower108 writes about what he experienced:
Sexual harassment is the worst. It’s unbelievable to me that not everyone can seem to grasp when that behavior is appropriate or wanted. I had a male trainer for about a year and I really thought we had become close friends, but I started to notice tiny things. Eventually he started occasionally commenting on my bulge at the gym and that grew to him starting to tell me intimate details about himself and I told him I didn’t feel comfortable with that kind of talk, but his response was that I was moving away to college and I need to get used to that sort of ‘Locker Room Talk.’
Finally, he told me to stay naked when we were changing in the locker room and started talking about all these sexual things he wanted to show me. I left right then and there and had to cut him off after that. I would hate to deal with sexual harassment everyday. Compression shorts would be a pain to wear [for] an entire workday, too. If people really won’t stop commenting or the like, though, you might have to buy a few higher quality pairs and try to make it work.”
Or, you know, maybe your coworkers can stop being pricks.
2. Other men may be jealous.
Speaking of coworkers being pricks, u/TaskForceCausality shares what happened after he was outed at work as having a huge penis:
So last week I had a meeting. Usually I take a leak before the meeting as it’s three hours long. Typically I use a stall, but I was pushed for time and literally the only available commode was a urinal. In the middle. Did I mention the privacy dividers stop at shoulder level?
Some of you can guess what happens next. I tried to make it fast, but couldn’t finish before the 6’4 Operations manager and a coworker took the urinals left and right.
A week later I’ve suddenly become persona non grata among the male coworkers here. I’m not the kind of guy who gives a shit about jealousy, but it blows that now I have to put up with this drama. Like high school all over again.
Just venting, and counting my blessings no male VP decided to take a leak at that time.
3. Sex can be difficult with a huge penis.
A recurring theme by some Redditors was that it can be difficult to actually have good sexbecause their huge penis doesn’t really fit their partner. Redditor u/chanman333 writes:
Gift and a curse. When I was single I got lots of hookups because of my size. But lots of those hookups couldn’t actually take all of me so it was ‘meh’ sex. But luckily I found a hot twink that loves me almost as much as he loves my dick.
Similarly, u/HighCalorieSalt has a similar issue with his girth:
I’m not hung lengthwise (about 6.75); I am pretty thick (little over 6 inches around with a tape measure). I’ve only had a couple guys successfully bottom. Most guys wanna suck it and gag a lot, but I find it hot so oh well.
And u/rickyrun was personally on the other end of a huge penis:
I am happy with my size, but hung out with a guy who has a huge cock. It was about 10 inches and thick. I didn’t know this as we did not meet on a hookup app. We are fooling around and he pulls out his massive dick. I remember thinking that’s not going inside me. I’d try my best to suck it. He told me that most guys can’t put more than just the head and a tiny part of shaft in their mouth and he’s actually a top but had to be a bottom just to actually date. It ended up becoming a therapy session. We made out a few times and he blew me over the course of a few weeks, but never got the chance to go more than that.
4. Surprise erections with a huge penis are very difficult to hide.
We’re all familiar with spontaneous erections, particularly during puberty. Everyone reading about this probably knows about the good ol’ book trick when it used to happen during class, but u/ImperialResurrection’s huge penis problems meant being in a situation where that wouldn’t work:
I was in the gym, wearing standard attire of loose fitting, decently short-shorts. As a consequence of performing sets of high weight bench presses causing a rise in blood pressure (and I won’t lie, checking out some cute guys), I had developed a ‘3/4 mast’ erection which resulted in the tip of my penis being exposed out of the end of the shorts, along with an extremely noticeable bulge. Naturally I went to the toilet as soon as possible to urinate and dis-spell the erection.
5. People see you as just a huge penis, rather than a person.
One Redditor wrote about how his reputation precedes him, and not always in a good way:
99.4th percentile here. It doesn’t really affect my life? I mean maybe it made it easier to get laid when I was slutting around but those days are long gone, thank god. I do remember getting pissed when guys I was seeing would go and talk to everyone about it. In fact, one boyfriend told me after a year of relationship that the reason he started talking to me was that he had heard about it. Felt bad.
Written by: Matt Keeley. 06 April 2019. Original Publishing 18 September 2018. NSFW. Sex. Hornet.com