The grand opening for Mother Tucker's Lounge will add a new and exciting place just outside of the French Quarter. Just in time for Southern Decadence, you can experience the excitement of Acid Betty as she performs Friday, September 1, 2017 from 9:00PM til 12:00AM (VIP tickets only), and keep partying at the after party 12:00AM till open to the public. Then on Saturday, September 2, 2017 join Chi Chi LaRue and the men of Falcon Studios as they perform from 9:00PM til 12:00AM (VIP tickets only), and then open to the public for the after party 12:00AM till. The VIP host shall be Kara Scene, so come and have a truly decadent time at Mother Tucker's Lounge, 529 Frenchmen Street, New Orleans, LA.
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Not too long ago same-sex marriage was decreed as legal in the United States. It is hard to believe that the issue as disputable, confrontational, and subjective is now legal in all fifty states, under the premise of human equality.
Now I don’t want to really get into the issues of social or religious problems that we face in the is country. Instead, I want to talk about social media (gay apps) in the LGBT community. As most know there are a variety of gay social apps to choose from (A4A, Hornet, Planet Romeo, Scruff), however, Grindr has become the most popular and widely used by many gay men.
Like most social apps Grindr scans an area where you live or are and finds other users who are nearby, you can create a profile with information and a picture, which they say gives you better “appeal”. Just think of it as Tinder for gay men; you can talk, chat, exchange contacts, go on “dates”, hook up for sex. To a certain extent, the app does what it’s supposed to, simply because you don’t have to go around announcing that you’re gay. This is most useful in countries where homosexuality is either frowned or illegal.
However, I personally feel that the app could do more harm than good in terms of bringing the LGBT community together, bridging the social disparity between those who have come out of the closet and those who have not; also eradicating the discrimination towards gays. So, I asked four friends to discuss their experiences using Grindr (It wasn’t easy that I can tell you). I gave each one a category and to express their honest opinion about that topic. Here we go!
Guys I find attractive: famous, take, twice my age, doesn't like me back, don't know I exist, not real, dead, or fake. Author Unknown
It Promotes Superficiality
According to Stan who has been using the app for three years now, he has found that pictures are either old or edited beyond imagination, biographies are written in an overtly grandiose manner, and conversations are usually expressed by their alter-ego.
He found this is not limited to just Grindr, but most social apps have the same men on them. Which leads to one being disappointed when you finally meet up because they fall short of expectations (don’t fool yourself expectations are always involved even if you’re just meeting up for a booty call). I asked him to explain what he meant by expectations, he stated “They say that their versatile when in fact they are a complete bottom or suck cock, eat ass, kiss, and you find out it’s not true. A huge turn of.f” He goes on to say, “Most men on these apps are full of crap, they don’t show up, or just want to collect pictures.”
It validates promiscuity
One of the most stereotypical remarks that you often hear is that homosexuals are promiscuous, that you just sleep around with whoever that comes your way.
Trey has been using Grindr for 3.5 years now and has found that most men keep their social app usage on the down low, they don’t want anyone to know they’re using the apps for quick hook-ups. When in fact most men “use Grindr to get laid as much as possible, so long as the other guy “fits” their taste or preference.” He goes on to say, “this really isn’t good for the community and bad for overall health, but it also validates what others have been saying all the while.”
Let’s just be honest Grindr was made with the purpose of hooking up, however, is that the impression that we want for our community? In a world where we are scrutinized. And it’s important to note that the “straight” community isn’t immune to social stereotyping. There are just as many apps for straights are there are for gays. Regardless, we are all at one time judged by society.
It reduces character
Nick has been using Grindr since 2012 and is amazed that this app like most will “reduce the character of who they are, and how one carries themselves.” With Grindr, all that goes out the window so to say.
One will find themselves overly obsessed with the idealistic. The perception of bodily image is reduced to the point that if you don’t have the face or body of David Beckham (pick you own if that helps), one is automatically categorized as not “hot” or even worse “visually appealing,” and that leads to contortion of character, where one feels inferior to the guys out there.
I mean gay men already tip toe on eggshells when out in public, increasing their self-consciousness and making them belittle how they look which just affects them emotionally and mentally. This only causes them to withdraw in their insecurities, and does not bring anyone closer to the “norm”.
It magnifies labels
Labeling is just a brutal categorization that one cannot escape, especially on Grindr. I mean you must choose a label for yourself so that others can “scrutinize” you in their minds before meeting or getting to know you as a person. Negative (or positive, for the body builder) images are conjured before anything even happens.
Michael has been using Grinder for 6 years. He admits that looking at “stats” is the method to determine if someone is worth contacting. He also states, “Grindr does promote superficiality and narrow-mindedness.” And that what matters on gay apps is “the chiseled cheekbones, washboard-defined abs, and a huge cock.” He doesn’t like that fact that most on Grindr (along with other apps) all want the same thing, there is no diversity, or acceptance that a guy might be just average. Just look at their profiles, you will see masc. only, no fems, no fats, twinks only, no or only blacks/whites/Latinos/Asians, no over/under a certain age, the list can on and on. Michael concluded by saying “I do love the LGBT community, they understand what it’s like to be pushed aside and marginalized for their sexual preference, I can’t say the same for Grindr. There is more discrimination and prejudice on Grindr than anywhere I have experienced.”
Please don’t get me wrong, I do believe that Grindr and other social apps have allowed people to come together, to share the same interests as them, to allow those who are shy to express themselves, and connect with others in the community. However, I do believe that you must make peace with yourself before loving others, believe in yourself before loving others, and that includes having the courage to face your own shortcomings and accept one’s identity.
Just let me say this. For those who are actively seeking their “happily ever after” on Grindr, just know that it will mostly be a “happily never after”.
Dallas, Christos. "Grindr - Everything That is Wrong in the Gay World". 1 Oct. 2013. Vada Magazine. Opinions. 07/20/2017.
Personal Interview. Stan. 08/01/2017. Name changed to protect identity. Phone.
Personal Interview. Trey. 07/31/2017. Phone.
Personal Interview. Nick. 07/22/2019. Name changed to protect identity. Web Cam.
Personal Interview. Michael. 08/04/2017. Name changed to protect identity. Phone.
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I came across a very interesting article by Michael Musto of the New York Times. In the article Musto analyzes the changes in the leather world and fetish community. The article “Gay Leather Scene Tones Down From Hard Core to Dress-Up” addresses the morphing of the hardcore leather scene to a more parade of best dressed.
The author would interview leather men in the bars of New York City to shop owners; each talking about how leather in the gay community has become more “mainstream”, and that leather no longer belongs exclusively to the fetish community but has become a statement or a “way to dress” that is sexually provocative.
The internet has played a major role in the perception of leather. As most men are living their lives on the internet, more so on their phones. The sense of being who you are without judgment, or being ashamed is very alluring. Younger men are exploring their kinky side as a result, and expressing themselves in a way that would not have been possible 15 years ago. Matt Johnson stated that “the growth of the virtual world has democratized kink to a greater extent, and has led to a proliferation of kinky sides”.
Where does this leave the more hard core leather men? Most will agree that leather should be earned not purchased and that the understanding of the history is important. However, they understand that times are changing, the concept of self-expression is important. We live in a world where sex is everywhere, and exposure to sex at a younger age isn’t uncommon.
So, some men will simply wear leather (for example the harness) to allow themselves the freedom of expression, to explore their sexuality in their own way. As for the die hard leather men they see the changes and have come to embrace them, and allow this younger generation to be themselves. Isn’t that what it’s all about?
Excerpts: Musto, Michael. “Gay Leather Scene Tones Down From Hard Core to Dress-Up”. The New York Times. 22 December, 2015. Online.
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Southern Decadence is one of the largest LGBT events in New Orleans. Every Labor Day weekend thousands of visitors descend on the city to party and have a good time. The annual Southern Decadence parade is a much-anticipated event; which features the official Grand Marshals.
New Orleans Southern Decadence, Inc. is the entity that raises money for the parade and various charities in New Orleans. Locals in the LGBT community and businesses give thousands of dollars to support Southern Decadence, not to mention each Grand Marshal host several events to help raise money.
New Orleans Southern Decadence, Inc., state that they are a 501(c)(3) tax-exempt organization on their sponsorship application Which means they can raise money as a tax-exempt organization defined by the Internal Revenue Service tax codes. Having a 501(c)(3) tax-exemption allows money collected, to possibility be tax-deductible on personal and business federal tax returns. To decide if New Orleans Southern Decadence is a 501(c)(3) tax-exempt organization research was conducted by looking under the Exempt Organizations Select Tool of the I.R.S. and no listing was found, therefore, I called the Internal Revenue Service and spoke with a Mr. Reece (100057****), a complete search was conducted using the name(s), addresses, cities, and zip code(s) as listed in the database of the Louisiana Secretary of State, at the time this article was posted the I.R.S. could not verify New Orleans Southern Decadence, Inc. had or currently is a 501(c)(3) tax-exempt organization, nor was an application submitted. As a matter of fact, according to Ambush Magazine in their Nov. 22 – Dec. 5, 2016 edition, New Orleans Southern Decadence, Inc. paid $15.00 to the Louisiana Secretary of State to file their annual report; however according to the state’s database they are not in good standing for failure to file an annual report. So, what did they file?
I find it strange that New Orleans Southern Decadence, Inc., does not list anywhere on their website the EIN number that would have been given when their application was approved. When you give cash you never receive a receipt, which all 501(c)(3) organizations are required to give when requested. New Orleans Southern Decadence, Inc. has never posted or made available their annual reports. Unless you count the information they post in Ambush; which cannot be confirmed.
This raises concerns about the people overseeing the company. Do they know that they are cheating the public out of money? By stating a falsehood. According to a source at the United States Justice Department, “it’s considered fraud to state that you are a 501(c)(3) tax-exempt organization if you do not have proper documentation of the fact”. The Justice Dept. takes all accusations of fraud seriously, and there is a possibility that state statutes might have been violated. All 501(c)(3) tax-exempt organizations must abide by certain rules; such as, when holding a fundraising event where money is raised, funds should go directly to the charity. New Orleans Southern Decadence, Inc. may deduct certain expenses directly related to the event, but nothing outside the described event. So, where does that leave the parade? Can money be raised under a 501(c)(3) and spent on a parade (including insurance, permits, police details, costumes, and sanitation/cleanup, etc.)? Does the parade directly benefit any charity?
So, what happens to Southern Decadence? An event founded on the principle of having fun and being decadent. Is Southern Decadence as we know it coming to an end? It is a shame in my opinion when a company deceives the public and local businesses by asking for money under a 501(c)(3) tax-exempt status when in fact they are not and never were! I remember a saying that someone once told me, "never fool around with the I.R.S., sooner or later they will come knocking and wanting answers" when that day comes Southern Decadence might return to its original purpose. Until then we wait!
UPDATE: It appears that New Orleans Southern Decadence, Inc. has filed their annual report with the State of Louisiana. However, that doesn't mean they are compliant with the Federal tax codes regarding 501(c)(3). At the time of this posting (8/3/2017 3:15 AM CST) New Orleans Southern Decadence Inc. sponsorship form still, states their a 501(c)(3) corporation.
Ambush Magazine. 45th Southern Decadence Sets New Records: Over 216,000 Participants, Over $259 Million Economic Impact, Over $27,000 for Charity. Vol. 34. 22 November - 5 December, 2016. Article. 28 July, 2017. Online.
Department of the Treasury. Internal Revenue Service. Charitable Contributions - Substantiation & Disclosure Requirements. Publication 1771. Catalog No. 20054Q. Rev. March 2016. 28 July, 2017. Online.
Department of the Treasury. Internal Revenue Service. Tax-Exempt Status for Your Organization. Publication 557. Catalog No. 46573C. Rev. January 2017. 28 July, 2017. Online.
Department of the Treasury. Internal Revenue Service. Tax Information for Charities & Other Non-Profits. EO Select Check. Database. 28 July, 2017. Online
Louisiana Secretary of State. Commercial Division. Charter Number 4121365N. New Orleans Southern Decadence Inc. 28 July, 2017. Online.
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Believe it or not, there was a time that if you wanted to meet someone you had to actually go to a bar and start a conversation. Long before social app sites like Grindr, Adam4Adam, Scruff, the interaction between two gay men could be told by the hanky code or “flagging”. This was more prevalent during the 60’s and 70’s in the leather and BDSM to covertly signal their sexual interests; this was at a time when being gay could get you arrested, beaten up or fired (one can still be fired for being gay).
In the past 10 years this method has somewhat fallen by the wayside; however, in the leather community, you can still find men that will flag their back pockets. I never understood the hanky code until I became more involved in the leather community, and trust me I asked questions. I found it fascinating that what originated in the 60’s and 70’s was still around. However, you can understand why it still exists; for some, it might be the tradition of the past, and for some, it might be the mystery of using one. Either way, it is a fading practice.
This history of the handkerchiefs is very interesting and while it is believed to have originated in New York City, in fact, it is based on a San Francisco tradition that date backs to the mid-1800. They were commonly used in the American West by cowboys, miners and rail engineers. When gold was discovered in 1848 the style was carried on by prospectors that flocked to California. In 1846 San Francisco’s population was about 200, however, after the Mexican-American War, the population would explode to roughly 36,000. But the percentage of the population were mostly men; therefore, men were forced to dance together at social, with some men wearing a blue bandanna to show that they were assuming the male leading part in the dance while others wore red bandannas to show they were taking the female following role in the dance.
It is a tradition that has seen many changes, but the basic colors and meaning will never change. Especially within the leather community. J. Franklin
The modern use by gay men appears to date back to the early 1970’s when a journalist for the Village Voice joked that instead of using keys on the left or right pocket to indicate top or bottom in the bedroom – the prevailing custom of the time – instead, men should use colorful handkerchiefs that could be used to signal more specific interest.
Many variations still exist, but the following from Larry Townsend’s 1983 book The Leatherman’s Handbook II (2nd edition) seems to be the most commonly followed for the core colors. Here are a few examples:
Since then there are have been several variations with regards to the color of handkerchiefs for example; white = racists, gray = boring, baby blue = mother issues, pink = ingrained homophobia, and mustard = you drink too much. So it appears that like anything in life the hanky code is changing to meet the different terms of the gay community as it expands to include more within the community. Regardless of how you feel, the past meets the present and move forward to the future. It is these traditions that define our culture and allows us to express ourselves in different and unique ways.
GLBT Historical Society Archives & Museum. Archives & Research Center. San Francisco, CA. Online. 19 July, 2017.
The Village Voice. Archives. New York City, NY. Online. 19 July, 2017.
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As we all know falling in love is the easiest part of a relationship or any relationship for that matter. The hardest part of any relationship is commitment and keeping the relationship going. Experts claim that passionate love only last 2 to 4 years, which can create problems for any relationship, and that mutual respect and compatibility then become increasingly important. However, if you are gay (homosexual) you understand that keeping a relationship health is hard work.
Most gay relationships today never last past 5 years according to Psychologist Jess Bering. He states “that for most gay relationship it is at this point that either one or both partners will “fall out of love” or “disinterested”. It is important to understand that in the animal kingdom the primary goal of most male species is to reproduce. Humans are no different, but for some couples a legal marriage prevents most from going outside of their relationship (we know this is not always the case), and only because there are legal consequences.
"Heartbreak is every bit as much a psychological adaptation as is the compulsion to have sex with those other than our partners, and it throws a monster of a monkey wrench into the evolutionists' otherwise practical polyamory." Psychologist Jesse Bering
Mutual respect and compatibly then becomes increasingly important as the relationship progresses. Here are a few tips that might help gay couples to remain committed to your partner.
Communicate - This is key for a long lasting relationship. Never allow small frictions in your relationship to be blown out of proportion. Be open and honest with your partner about what you are thinking and feeling, big or small. If you are bothered by something then speak up and discuss the issue together and remember once resolved it is over. Don't go back and rehash or live a problem.
Spend quality time together - the demands of life and work will always affect your relationship. It is equally important to establish time together or "Us" time. Together you should both block our time on your calendar and schedule other commitments around that date.
Experiment with sex - No matter what you do avoid at all cost "gay/lesbian bed death." Sexual passion and activity diminished in long term homosexual relationships, it's going happen. It does take some effort to spice up your sex life. Both of you should consider exploring activities you've never done before. Don't ever exceed your partner's boundaries, there should be a frank, open and honest discussion about each other limits, and there should always be respect. For example, try doing some role play, this will allow each other to explore another side of sex without feeling pressure.
Keeping a relationship fresh - This can be some work, but in the long run it is well worth it. Try introducing elements of surprise or anything fresh in your relationship; this will help you remain committed to your partner. Sending flowers without an occasion or an extraordinary active will help keep a relationship vibrant and interesting.
Avoid Jealousy - Unfortunately jealousy in all too common in the gay community. Without a doubt it will destroy any relationship. Jealousy mostly occurs when either one or both don't trust each other. We you have to start checking email, social media, call or texting all of the time, knowing where each other is at all times; there is no trust, and without trust there is no relationship (healthy at least). If you feel controlled by your partner you should confront and have a discussion, express how your feeling and resolve any issues.
Compromise - It is easy to always feel that you're right. To have a good relationship you need to always keep an open mind about any situation. This involves keeping your relationship on a even ground and establishes balance.
Just always know what you get out of any relationship is what you put into it. This is two people working together for a common goal, to be happy, healthy, understanding each other, accepting their faults, never expecting them to live up to you expectations, and above all trust.
Source: Ryan, Christopher, and Cacilda Jetha. Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality. N.p.: Haper Collins, 2010. Print.
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Yesterday evening members of Roundup held a fundraising event at the World War II Museum. The event was to raise money for addiction recovery benefiting the LGBTQ community in New Orleans.
Various works of art were up for auction, representing assorted cultural paintings, and assorted items. Last night current reigning Southern Decadence Grand Marshal Princess Stephaney entertained the audience with her humor, wit, and selected performances.
This year New Orleans Roundup with be held at the Double Tree Hotel August 11 - 13, 2017, and will host several speakers and workshops. Participates this year will include Alcoholic Anonymous, Al-Anon, Crystal Meth Anonymous, and Adult Children of Alcoholics. If you are interested in attending visit or registration: nolaroundup.com
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